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Bmoboy

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17. I have kids, grandkids, and still feel blue ar holiday time.

Reply to Beatlelvr (Original post)

Sun Nov 30, 2025, 07:23 PM

Sunday

I am 75 and have my own health issues and I feel like I have little energy to give out.

I think about how my relationship with my parents diminished over the years.

I had a family to support, jobs, the daily grind and spent less and less time with my folks.

My kids are going through the same struggles with their jobs, kids, etc as I did, so they don't have time to tend to me.

Never liked this time of year. Enforced happiness is a bummer.

Denial, distraction, devotion (politics, writing, DU) are the tricks I use.

Maybe a little intoxicant on occasion.

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Any other single no kids, no grandkids aunt or uncle who feels invisible at the holidays with family? [View all] Beatlelvr Sunday OP

Sorry; that's a difficult place to be in Chasstev365 Sunday #1

Thank you Beatlelvr Sunday #2

I am widowed and go to my daughter's home for the holidays now Marthe48 Sunday #3

You are right Beatlelvr Sunday #9

Our family gave up on trying to get together once everyone grew up. 1WorldHope Sunday #4

Along those lines... Beatlelvr Sunday #10

I hear you. I'm single with no children and feel Boomerproud Sunday #5

Like your name too! Beatlelvr Sunday #11

71 here, no kids. Staph Sunday #6

Yes, exactly Beatlelvr Sunday #12

We are all forgotten eventually. Do you know the full names of your great grandparents? Scrivener7 Sunday #19

I'm one of the genealogy geeks in the family. Staph Sunday #26

It saddens me that you think of yourself as a "dead end branch." Scrivener7 Yesterday #33

Hey Staph, True Dough Sunday #24

I can sure relate... Fyrefox Sunday #7

Thank you for your post Beatlelvr Sunday #14

Considering therapy is always a good idea yobrault1 Sunday #8

Those sound like good ideas. Beatlelvr Sunday #15

Let me take your questions one at a time.... anciano Sunday #13

I'm thankful for DU also! Beatlelvr Sunday #16

I have kids, grandkids, and still feel blue ar holiday time. Bmoboy Sunday #17

My closest family drmeow Sunday #18

I hope you feel better. Maybe you have pets to focus on or start a project. tazcat Sunday #20

I miss being a nurse, I'd work all the holidays and get holiday pay Warpy Sunday #21

I'm alone. But I'm a loner. ... littlemissmartypants Sunday #22

Love you back! Beatlelvr Sunday #28

TY ❤️ littlemissmartypants Yesterday #31

Maybe try this for Christmas AverageOldGuy Sunday #23

Why do you think Americans started making football the center of Thanksgiving? mtngirl47 Sunday #25

Actually, I DO knit and crochet Beatlelvr Sunday #27

Hey--have you watched the new Beatles Anthology on Disney? mtngirl47 Sunday #30

Old, divorced, no kids, I no longer get invited to holiday gatherings Ocelot II Sunday #29

Yes,somewhat similar Calico20 Yesterday #32

Married with no kids, and that would be us if our family lived closer. tanyev Yesterday #34

My sis is a widow with no children Diamond_Dog Yesterday #35