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Jarqui

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28. We had a Tom-like cat who fathered 3 kittens

Mon Sep 15, 2025, 08:20 PM

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We wound up keeping one of the kittens
They became very close.

One day, a neighbor beat the young cat, his son, to death because it left a little bit of its fur on their basement windowsill.
We let his father see him before getting him cremated. We felt it was important - that he just not disappear and leave the father wondering and looking.

The father went beside our house outside and howled all day for 2-3 weeks. I never expected that nor had realized the extent of the bond they had.

Eventually, we tried to get another kitten as a companion to fill the void but it wasn't the same. They didn't get along that well. We eventually had to get rid of that young cat as it became hostile to our young children.

We did everything we could but the father never really got completely over it - just like people.
Having said that, I'm sure our efforts helped some to ease his emotional pain.

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I'm coming here for advice/support, don't know where to turn [View all] Mossfern Monday OP

I'm very sorry for your loss. LuckyCharms Monday #1

Thank you Mossfern Monday #7

So sorry montanacowboy Monday #2

So very sorry for your loss. quaint Monday #3

Give Broccoli (and yourself) time. But make sure he is drinking water and eating at least a little Attilatheblond Monday #4

Thank you for giving me such understanding advice. Mossfern Monday #9

Your inner wisdom is serving you and the cat kids well Attilatheblond Monday #19

Cats usually homegirl Monday #22

Another kitty? That's what I'd do and let them eventually bond.. chouchou Monday #5

I'm so sorry for your loss. mzmolly Monday #6

Broccoli and I have been having conversations about it. Mossfern Monday #11

Has he viewed the body ? That seems to help them understand that their friend is "gone", in a different way ... eppur_se_muova Monday #8

He was present before we went to the vet Mossfern Monday #10

Even humans do not always accept a death until they attend the funeral. Animals may show the same behavior. eppur_se_muova Monday #12

Gus was euthanized at the vet Mossfern Monday #13

Seems to be some mistunderstanding -- I'm just suggesting he be allowed to view the body. eppur_se_muova Monday #14

My kitty Samson suffered mightily when his littermate BMO died. Nanuke Monday #15

I'm so sorry about Gus. Solly Mack Monday #16

Animals grieve Keepthesoulalive Monday #17

You can find calming cat music on You Tube Marthe48 Monday #18

You can't rush grief or mitigate it. LuvLoogie Monday #20

I'm sorry cate94 Monday #21

Deeply sorry for your loss. AltairIV Monday #23

Know how you feel...just lost my kitty a couple of weeks ago. I'm the "cat lady" allegorical oracle Monday #24

My answer would be "time." My cats are still mourning the loss of my GS and it has been a year. nt in2herbs Monday #25

Just Let The Kitty Mourn ProfessorGAC Monday #26

I am so sorry for the loss of Gus. LoisB Monday #27

We had a Tom-like cat who fathered 3 kittens Jarqui Monday #28

So sorry for the loss you and your fur babies are going thru, Mossfern. pazzyanne Monday #29

I'm so sorry that you lost Gus Wicked Blue Monday #30

Do you have any video recordings of Gus? Or would that make things worse? xuplate Monday #31

My kids are compiling a photo album Mossfern Monday #33

I'm sorry for your loss, Mossfern. I don't have any advice for you. 70sEraVet Monday #32

Thank you for posting your sad story. I am so sorry for your tragic loss. Fla Dem Yesterday #34

I never grieved so damn hard as I did when my beloved Marvy died. CTyankee Yesterday #35

Gus 😿 Clouds Passing Yesterday #36