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róisín_dubh

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43. I'm really sorry you went through that.
Thu Sep 4, 2025, 05:45 PM
Thursday

I had two encounters with really disgusting pervert photographers. The first time, like you, I was rather young (20). My boyfriend was with me, and though he waited in the car, which did seem to rankle the "photographers". The sense that I have of the situation, with the benefit of hindsight, was that it was not a good one at all to be in. I took some lingerie photos and left. I burned the photos when they sent them to me.

The second time I was a bit older and some friends had done photoshoots with the guy, so I felt less anxious. Needless to say, when he told me to take off my top, I told him to get fucked and left. But it was only age and experience that gave me any confidence to do that (well and the fact that I could've probably killed him with a couple of good kicks). Apparently a few of my friends took nude photos with him and more...but didn't bother to warn me that I'd be walking into that. Needless to say, I've not spoken to any of them in many years.

ETA: I hope you are able to heal from this and not blame yourself.

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