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HeartsCanHope

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34. Not sure exactly what you mean about semantics, but I do get the point.
Sun Aug 31, 2025, 12:32 AM
Aug 31

Perhaps I didn't clearly state what I meant. I grew up evangelical and I know exactly the point--they want to control women. Period. Body, mind and soul! The man is the head of the house and he makes the choices for the family. That's how my father operated and I made sure I married someone who believed in working together to make decisions, not an autocracy. I loved staying home with my son. I stopped working because I wanted to, because I wanted to be the one that took care of him full-time--not because I was forced to stop. We were lucky and financially able to make that choice.
I grew up in a time when I couldn't have my own checking account or credit card until after I was in college. I grew up before no fault divorce. I knew lots of women that were either trapped in abusive marriages until they managed to find a way to escape, or women who were financially decimated when their cheating spouse left them. I did what I could to help them get reestablished. Even after winning more rights women today still don't make as much as men--even doing the same job. That's another way to keep women trapped. The evangelicals will never willingly give women freedom, we have to force them to do what is right.
My point still is that we as women should get to make our own choices. No person, male or female, should make our choices for us. We need to vote for the people who believe in freedom of choice for women. We also need to make sure the republicons don't take social security, medicare, and medicaid away so that women who do make the choice to stay at home can survive if they lose their spouse. Many people live paycheck to paycheck and aren't able to put away enough cushion or buy enough insurance to take care of their families if the main breadwinner dies. The right won't help them--"God helps them that help themselves." It's financial AND personal freedoms that are at stake. We cannot fail.

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Well said, Hear, hear! marble falls Aug 30 #1
Not sure why they feel the need to be subtle. Aristus Aug 30 #2
Since Reagan's time most families need two paychecks to survive... Ritabert Aug 30 #3
Way before Reagan's time. chowmama Aug 30 #7
Very true. Ritabert Aug 30 #14
My first thought also. FoxNewsSucks Aug 30 #8
Exactly. Ritabert Aug 30 #13
i've always thought this was about all the things "nonworking" women did. mopinko Aug 31 #40
They want women out of the office taking up jobs mediocre men used to do Ritabert Aug 31 #43
may I just add Skittles Aug 30 #4
+1000 hamsterjill Aug 30 #6
Of course we never shame men who are the ones doing the mass killings. Irish_Dem Aug 30 #5
Also, the men are the IMPREGNATORS! ReRe Aug 30 #16
Exactly, they should receive the same punishment as women who get an abortion. Irish_Dem Aug 31 #37
Don't we have a court system and prisons... BluesRunTheGame Aug 31 #44
Inability to face reality about males is a good example of what I am saying. Irish_Dem Aug 31 #45
Are you, in any way trying to implicate the men who aren't... BluesRunTheGame Aug 31 #47
K&R jfz9580m Aug 30 #9
More RWRE stuff Nigrum Cattus Aug 30 #10
Rant all you want! If i weren't on this slightlv Aug 30 #11
But, but ya'll wimens could stay stay home an rear youngins... rubbersole Aug 30 #21
Yikes! Back to 'Leave It To Beaver'. Joinfortmill Aug 30 #12
You're stealing jobs from the white men, don't you know! hunter Aug 30 #15
Lots of non-white men of that type are the same way jfz9580m Aug 30 #20
Here in the U.S.A. it's powerful white guys who are pushing the Project 2025 crap. hunter Aug 30 #28
No argument about fascistic/nazi,wealthy, powerful white oligarchs jfz9580m Aug 30 #30
Imagine all of the two-income families Mblaze Aug 30 #17
I don't know if it's related, but... jmbar2 Aug 30 #18
I've seen some of that, as well. hamsterjill Aug 30 #31
Sadly enough, you're probably right about efforts to provoke, ahead of the midterms. calimary Aug 31 #32
On the flip side... SleeplessinSoCal Aug 30 #19
We're overthinking this... BurnDoubt Aug 30 #22
I've done both, been a working mom and a stay-at-home mom. HeartsCanHope Aug 30 #23
Uh, you are missing the point. Hornedfrog2000 Aug 30 #25
Not sure exactly what you mean about semantics, but I do get the point. HeartsCanHope Aug 31 #34
Yup, they will get more and more Hornedfrog2000 Aug 30 #24
Yes to cutting off the propaganda! BlueHurricane Aug 31 #38
Kick SheltieLover Aug 30 #26
My mom JustAnotherGen Aug 30 #27
Sadly, I'm not surprised. area51 Aug 30 #29
A kid's school day is pretty much the same as an adult's work day synni Aug 31 #33
I feel it's a clever con to confuse people about what a feminist ks jfz9580m Aug 31 #35
Correct Cosmocat Aug 31 #39
It doesn't matter. valleyrogue Aug 31 #36
we need to fix social security. u get half of "his" bennies mopinko Aug 31 #41
That would mean some media is nothing but Boomer bashing 24/7. OldBaldy1701E Aug 31 #42
A parent staying home with the kids for at least the first three years... gulliver Aug 31 #46
It should most definitely be a choice. hamsterjill Aug 31 #48
Another Desire To Crash The Evonomy, I Guess ProfessorGAC Aug 31 #49
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