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HeartsCanHope

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23. I've done both, been a working mom and a stay-at-home mom.

Sat Aug 30, 2025, 10:39 PM

Aug 30

Both jobs are hard. Both have advantages and disadvantages. What I'd like to see is no judgment on either side, just acceptance as hamsterjill suggests. The most important thing is having the choice to do what is best for your family. What I'm worried about the right forgetting that stay-at-home moms need survivor benefits. You can't raise a family for the amount of money they want to give you if the main breadwinner dies.

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I'm starting to see a lot of posts on social media "subtly" shaming women for working outside the home. [View all] hamsterjill Aug 30 OP

Well said, Hear, hear! marble falls Aug 30 #1

Not sure why they feel the need to be subtle. Aristus Aug 30 #2

Since Reagan's time most families need two paychecks to survive... Ritabert Aug 30 #3

Way before Reagan's time. chowmama Aug 30 #7

Very true. Ritabert Aug 30 #14

My first thought also. FoxNewsSucks Aug 30 #8

Exactly. Ritabert Aug 30 #13

i've always thought this was about all the things "nonworking" women did. mopinko Aug 31 #40

They want women out of the office taking up jobs mediocre men used to do Ritabert Aug 31 #43

may I just add Skittles Aug 30 #4

+1000 hamsterjill Aug 30 #6

Of course we never shame men who are the ones doing the mass killings. Irish_Dem Aug 30 #5

Also, the men are the IMPREGNATORS! ReRe Aug 30 #16

Exactly, they should receive the same punishment as women who get an abortion. Irish_Dem Aug 31 #37

Don't we have a court system and prisons... BluesRunTheGame Aug 31 #44

Inability to face reality about males is a good example of what I am saying. Irish_Dem Aug 31 #45

Are you, in any way trying to implicate the men who aren't... BluesRunTheGame Aug 31 #47

K&R jfz9580m Aug 30 #9

More RWRE stuff Nigrum Cattus Aug 30 #10

Rant all you want! If i weren't on this slightlv Aug 30 #11

But, but ya'll wimens could stay stay home an rear youngins... rubbersole Aug 30 #21

Yikes! Back to 'Leave It To Beaver'. Joinfortmill Aug 30 #12

You're stealing jobs from the white men, don't you know! hunter Aug 30 #15

Lots of non-white men of that type are the same way jfz9580m Aug 30 #20

Here in the U.S.A. it's powerful white guys who are pushing the Project 2025 crap. hunter Aug 30 #28

No argument about fascistic/nazi,wealthy, powerful white oligarchs jfz9580m Aug 30 #30

Imagine all of the two-income families Mblaze Aug 30 #17

I don't know if it's related, but... jmbar2 Aug 30 #18

I've seen some of that, as well. hamsterjill Aug 30 #31

Sadly enough, you're probably right about efforts to provoke, ahead of the midterms. calimary Aug 31 #32

On the flip side... SleeplessinSoCal Aug 30 #19

We're overthinking this... BurnDoubt Aug 30 #22

I've done both, been a working mom and a stay-at-home mom. HeartsCanHope Aug 30 #23

Uh, you are missing the point. Hornedfrog2000 Aug 30 #25

Not sure exactly what you mean about semantics, but I do get the point. HeartsCanHope Aug 31 #34

Yup, they will get more and more Hornedfrog2000 Aug 30 #24

Yes to cutting off the propaganda! BlueHurricane Aug 31 #38

Kick SheltieLover Aug 30 #26

My mom JustAnotherGen Aug 30 #27

Sadly, I'm not surprised. area51 Aug 30 #29

A kid's school day is pretty much the same as an adult's work day synni Aug 31 #33

I feel it's a clever con to confuse people about what a feminist ks jfz9580m Aug 31 #35

Correct Cosmocat Aug 31 #39

It doesn't matter. valleyrogue Aug 31 #36

we need to fix social security. u get half of "his" bennies mopinko Aug 31 #41

That would mean some media is nothing but Boomer bashing 24/7. OldBaldy1701E Aug 31 #42

A parent staying home with the kids for at least the first three years... gulliver Aug 31 #46

It should most definitely be a choice. hamsterjill Aug 31 #48

Another Desire To Crash The Evonomy, I Guess ProfessorGAC Aug 31 #49