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Sexual Assault Survivors Support

In_The_Wind

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28. Healing belongs to all of us. Now, thanks to DU, this is the place for help.

Reply to hrmjustin (Reply #27)

Sun Mar 24, 2013, 10:02 PM

Mar 2013

Very recently ...
A kind DUer said if there was anyway to help me through this pain he would. My answer to him: Only I can heal myself. Just stay by my side when I need a shoulder to lean on. And then only if I ask for help. No one can fight my battles for me.
To do so robs me of my power.

I am sorry that I have lost one friend because my pain was too much for her to feel.
I was triggering things from her childhood. I wished her well and goodbye.
I understand her problem , just cannot help her.

If there is anything that I can do for you just ask.

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I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. [View all] In_The_Wind Mar 2013 OP

. NYC_SKP Mar 2013 #1

Yep. You are one of the few who knew some of this before tonight. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #2

It is amazing what opening up just a little bit can lead to. Ms. Toad Mar 2013 #3

You helped more than all of the shrinks for 40 years Ms. Toad. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #4

:) Ms. Toad Mar 2013 #5

Thank you! It would not be fair to a newbie if anyone had to replace me now. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #6

... Aristus Mar 2013 #7

It helps me to heal so that the rest of my life will be happier. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #8

You are so brave Sekhmets Daughter Mar 2013 #9

Oh dear. You missed the best chapter: In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #10

Hello, In The Wind! Sissyk Mar 2013 #11

Thank you. CPS did not exist when I needed them. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #12

When I was in a different state..and it seemed people actually like me..I wanted to heal angstlessk Mar 2013 #13

I understand how much that hurt you. It victimized you again. I'm sorry. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #15

Oh my god, I can relate...there were persons in my life that I should have clung to angstlessk Mar 2013 #14

It's overwhelmingly painful for those who try to love us. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #16

Is crying good.. angstlessk Mar 2013 #17

in my opinion, yes. crying can help to wash the pain from your heart. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #18

Has your father responded to you? I understand your distrust... angstlessk Mar 2013 #19

My father passed away in 1972. I have no problem telling the good guys from the bad. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #20

In my life men have always been my prblem..so I guess angstlessk Mar 2013 #21

I am an alpha female who is only attracted to men if that clarifies it for you. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #22

I never thought of myself as gay until I saw a person whom I thought was a man angstlessk Mar 2013 #23

I am so sorry. imo: women can be more cruel than men. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #24

I wish you healing and peace! hrmjustin Mar 2013 #25

If what I have learned can help someone else to heal ... In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #26

Listening to other stories has helped me in my healing process. hrmjustin Mar 2013 #27

Healing belongs to all of us. Now, thanks to DU, this is the place for help. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #28

Thank you my friend. hrmjustin Mar 2013 #29

childhood assault repeats itself sigmasix Mar 2013 #30

Over the years, I have learned to trust my judgment. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #31