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Loners

elocs

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16. At age 70, having lived independently most of my adult life,

Reply to Basic LA (Reply #9)

Mon Jan 16, 2023, 02:57 PM

Jan 2023

being forced to live with other people or in a nursing home would be absolute hell for me and I would never live in such a place if it is within my power to prevent it.

I have, or had, an 80 year old neighbor whose wife died maybe 8 years ago and has been living on his own. A couple of years ago he discovered that his liver was done and supposedly he has been dying since, but he just hangs in there. Sadly his children forced him to go into an assisted living facility. I saw him a few days later and his complaint was that the place was full of old people who needed to wear bibs in the dining hall. Funny, but sad as well.

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Wow! I didn't know there was a DU loners group. [View all] elocs Jan 2023 OP

Loners have groups? Ocelot II Jan 2023 #1

+++ JohnSJ Jan 2023 #2

I wouldn't call myself unsociable but rather non-sociable. elocs Jan 2023 #19

There's not a lot of activity. CrispyQ Jan 2023 #3

I don't know...maybe it's like Groucho said, I don't know if I could belong to a club elocs Jan 2023 #20

Life of the party? Ha. Warpy Jan 2023 #4

What I would do at a work Christmas party: elocs Jan 2023 #18

I am the same, small talk and casual encounters add to the quality of my life Walleye Jan 2023 #5

Welcome home! SheltieLover Jan 2023 #6

I would assume only one person is allowed in the group at a time Clash City Rocker Jan 2023 #7

Sounds a lot like me. Introverted, but socialized. Lol. Joinfortmill Jan 2023 #8

A problem for older loners... Basic LA Jan 2023 #9

My mother lives in one of those communities. She just doesn't participate. TygrBright Jan 2023 #10

I'll have to keep that in mind ... Hekate Jan 2023 #13

3 years on, I am re-examining the effects of mandatory introversion on my physical and mental health TygrBright Jan 2023 #21

Exactly so Hekate Jan 2023 #24

At age 70, having lived independently most of my adult life, elocs Jan 2023 #16

My dad, very much an introvert, lived in a senior retirement home Ocelot II Jan 2023 #25

Schizoid? Do you see connections between events, ideas, objects and/or people that TeamProg Jan 2023 #11

No, I'm on the mild end of the schizoid spectrum. elocs Jan 2023 #22

Welcome! berniesandersmittens Jan 2023 #12

Cats have it down packman Jan 2023 #14

So glad to find this group. Learning something new every day here. Butterflylady Jan 2023 #15

Thank you for celebrating neurodiversity! NullTuples Jan 2023 #17

Hello, fellow introvert here. On DU for 17 years but first time visit to Loners Group. txwhitedove Jan 2023 #23

Ironically I'll have been at DU for 17 years this March. Small world. n/t elocs Jan 2023 #28

♥️ peacebuzzard Jan 2023 #30

Got me thinking so I took this Schizoid Personality Spectrum Test.... Goonch Jan 2023 #26

My schizoid diagnosis came about 12 years ago when my daughter was tested elocs Jan 2023 #29

Welcome to Loners, elocs. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Jan 2023 #27