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Bereavement

In reply to the discussion: Its time, for me , to go [View all]

pdxflyboy

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5. I lost my wife of 35 years this past June 24th.
Thu Jul 31, 2025, 10:22 AM
Jul 31

Massive brain bleed stroke on the 23rd. Brain activity ceased evening of the 23rd. She was Do Not Resucitate. On 2:15pm of the 24th, I requested life support removal. My 24 year old son and I were holding her hands, talking to her and weeping. At 2:35 her breathing got shallow and her eyes opened just wide enough to see her pupils and some of that beautiful blue with that “gaze into eternity”. At 2:41, she exhaled her last shallow breath, the monitors went completely flat. The nurse checked her breathing and pulse and said “2:41”. Her funeral is August 8th, followed by internment. I will deliver her eulogy. Grief subsides a bit, then hits you, almost knocking u over. Allow it to happen. Don’t try to tough it out. It’s normal. My healing thoughts go to all of you who have suffered a loss.

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