Bereavement

Marthe48

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31. I try to pass along what I can

Sat Apr 22, 2023, 11:02 AM

Apr 2023

My younger brother died in 1983, at age 29. I went around and around trying to find a reason why he died. It was over 20 years, and I read a parent's comment about the loss of a young child. She said, "Some things are just unacceptable." That once sentence got me out of a longtime low spot. And I think understanding that has helped me with subsequent losses. I still take as much time as I need, but it seems that I have been able to get back on my feet after time passes.

I read your post below. Never easy. Take care.

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I met with attorneys yesterday over my wife. [View all] Duncanpup Apr 2023 OP

Hugs. onecaliberal Apr 2023 #1

I'm so sorry that you are going thru very rough time of grief and anger vlyons Apr 2023 #2

It's true that we can only control our own thoughts and actions. ShazzieB Apr 2023 #60

I don't trust them either, because their minds are full of delusions. vlyons Apr 2023 #61

I agree with every word of this! ShazzieB Apr 2023 #63

2 years ago I had a fever and my multigraincracker Apr 2023 #3

... brer cat Apr 2023 #4

It sounds negligent to me. Please keep us informed about your case. panader0 Apr 2023 #5

I am for what you are going through. What year did this occur? 33taw Apr 2023 #6

Five months ago leftieNanner Apr 2023 #20

I felt every word. Your brimming emotions are so very understandable. So sorry for your Ninga Apr 2023 #7

you're doing everything right. barbtries Apr 2023 #8

Hugs Duncanpup Apr 2023 #9

"5 months is like a minute...." Rorey Apr 2023 #25

thank you Rorey barbtries Apr 2023 #33

Anyone who has lost a loved one True Blue American Apr 2023 #36

I think you're doing fine, navigating the stages of grief. Go sinkingfeeling Apr 2023 #10

Its got to be tough enough to handle the death of your loving spouse, 70sEraVet Apr 2023 #11

Had never heard of sepsis KS Toronado Apr 2023 #12

I'm so sorry, Duncanpup Bayard Apr 2023 #13

That was no dyslexic ramble, my friend. It was an articulate indictment of a system that if it ... marble falls Apr 2023 #14

You feel anger, SpamWyzer Apr 2023 #15

Part of the club Rorey Apr 2023 #21

I hope you find a way to cope Marthe48 Apr 2023 #16

Beautiful post, Marthe48 Rorey Apr 2023 #18

I am SO sorry you're going through this Rorey Apr 2023 #17

I try to pass along what I can Marthe48 Apr 2023 #31

Sepsis is a common complication TexasBushwhacker Apr 2023 #47

Heartbreaking and alarming. pandr32 Apr 2023 #19

Sorry to hear this Puppyjive Apr 2023 #22

Looking at the Macro Problem..... McKim Apr 2023 #23

I'm so sorry you're going through all this. CaptainTruth Apr 2023 #24

We are here to vent to vent away. gibraltar72 Apr 2023 #26

Keep us posted on that. If you're older, they flat out turn you down no matter what you died of judesedit Apr 2023 #27

I am so sorry Goddessartist Apr 2023 #28

I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Apr 2023 #29

Huggggggg, dear friend, and healing vibes. I can only guess at the depth of your niyad Apr 2023 #30

Sending a hug and strength democrank Apr 2023 #32

When you first posted the week she died. I knew you were in shock. tavernier Apr 2023 #34

'they never took blood' elleng Apr 2023 #35

Same thought here. JudyM Apr 2023 #40

I feel your pain. My late husband's doctor OMGWTF Apr 2023 #37

I can feel your pain Moostache Apr 2023 #38

Hopefully you'll have a good case bucolic_frolic Apr 2023 #39

Failure To Draw Blood Cultures? GB_RN Apr 2023 #41

I think so too, elleng Apr 2023 #45

First thing to do is draw blood. Quick, broad-spectrum diagnostic tool. JudyM Apr 2023 #50

Sounds like she passed right before Thanksgiving. calimary Apr 2023 #42

I'm so sorry for your loss and pain. LittleGirl Apr 2023 #43

Dear Duncanpup. MLAA Apr 2023 #44

I knew your wife passed but I had no idea you were going through this. The Jungle 1 Apr 2023 #46

I am so sorry cate94 Apr 2023 #48

So sorry. Scottie Mom Apr 2023 #49

It's good to press forward with this, see if the lawyers agree negligence was involved. JudyM Apr 2023 #51

We care about you, Duncanpup Wild blueberry Apr 2023 #52

I went through similar with my Mom. Total malpractice. I know the anger, the pain and the fight Evolve Dammit Apr 2023 #53

So sorry to hear. My son is an orthopedic surgery resident and I have always impressed upon him that Pepsidog Apr 2023 #54

So sorry for what you're going through. I hope you're able to hold those doctors accountable!! diva77 Apr 2023 #55

Sending hugs. We are here for you. love_katz Apr 2023 #56

((((hugs)))) Duncanpup. I hope you get the justice that you deserve. sueh Apr 2023 #57

Hugs and small advice Lithos Apr 2023 #58

Deepest condolences sir GeoWilliam750 Apr 2023 #59

I smiled when I read about Dunc having play dates with your new friend's Golden puppy ShazzieB Apr 2023 #62

.... sprinkleeninow Apr 2023 #64

Being single again sucks. I miss my Ilsa Apr 2023 #65

No advice to give runnergirl Apr 2023 #66

Hugs malaise Apr 2023 #67

My belated but sincere condolences on your loss of your wife Duncanpup. CentralMass May 2023 #68