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Bereavement

Golden Raisin

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13. I think your advice was excellent.

Reply to Grasswire2 (Original post)

Wed Aug 7, 2019, 09:28 PM

Aug 2019

Each case/person is individual. Your son will have to work out his own survivor's peace, whether he goes or not. My emotionally abusive father died when I was 16 and I had to basically wait until I matured into an adult to start truly understanding the extent of the damage and try to heal. Wishing you and your son some relief and peace now and for the future.

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My ex husband (abusive narcissist) is dying. [View all] Grasswire2 Aug 2019 OP

you answered perfectly!!! gopiscrap Aug 2019 #1

Does he have to do that in person? dawg day Aug 2019 #2

I agree. Let him shed a tear for what might have been, and donate the airfare to a charity Croney Aug 2019 #4

yes, there are two other siblings -- one of them a minister, actually. And a third wife. Grasswire2 Aug 2019 #5

Being there for the sake of his siblings, if they love him, is worthwhile. lostnfound Aug 2019 #9

I agree with your answer to your son duforsure Aug 2019 #3

forgiveness is overrated agingdem Aug 2019 #6

Not a forgiving G-d? JudyM Aug 2019 #14

consider the Holocaust... agingdem Aug 2019 #16

I get that. JudyM Aug 2019 #17

For His Own Healing, Your Son Should Say Goodbye to His Father, If He Can dlk Aug 2019 #7

My father was not a part of my life left-of-center2012 Aug 2019 #8

that's what this son is experiencing as loss... Grasswire2 Aug 2019 #11

Making the visit could trigger an emotional setback. littlemissmartypants Aug 2019 #10

I went to my mother's deathbed Chalco Aug 2019 #12

That was so kind of you, Chalco. JudyM Aug 2019 #15

that was a pretty amazing experience orleans Aug 2019 #18

Thanks! Chalco Aug 2019 #19

I think your advice was excellent. Golden Raisin Aug 2019 #13