Bereavement

dawg day

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2. Does he have to do that in person?

Wed Aug 7, 2019, 12:35 PM

Aug 2019

Is there other family there to deal with the funeral and burial and all? He shouldn't get stuck with that.

Should there be an expectation of forgiveness? I don't know... maybe it will give him peace. But he doesn't have to be there to do that.

Some people are actually meant to die alone and unmourned. It's the naturally occurring consequence of being mean to others. Your son should not feel guilty if he decides not to go there. it's not HIS fault his father alienated his family.

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My ex husband (abusive narcissist) is dying. [View all] Grasswire2 Aug 2019 OP

you answered perfectly!!! gopiscrap Aug 2019 #1

Does he have to do that in person? dawg day Aug 2019 #2

I agree. Let him shed a tear for what might have been, and donate the airfare to a charity Croney Aug 2019 #4

yes, there are two other siblings -- one of them a minister, actually. And a third wife. Grasswire2 Aug 2019 #5

Being there for the sake of his siblings, if they love him, is worthwhile. lostnfound Aug 2019 #9

I agree with your answer to your son duforsure Aug 2019 #3

forgiveness is overrated agingdem Aug 2019 #6

Not a forgiving G-d? JudyM Aug 2019 #14

consider the Holocaust... agingdem Aug 2019 #16

I get that. JudyM Aug 2019 #17

For His Own Healing, Your Son Should Say Goodbye to His Father, If He Can dlk Aug 2019 #7

My father was not a part of my life left-of-center2012 Aug 2019 #8

that's what this son is experiencing as loss... Grasswire2 Aug 2019 #11

Making the visit could trigger an emotional setback. littlemissmartypants Aug 2019 #10

I went to my mother's deathbed Chalco Aug 2019 #12

That was so kind of you, Chalco. JudyM Aug 2019 #15

that was a pretty amazing experience orleans Aug 2019 #18

Thanks! Chalco Aug 2019 #19

I think your advice was excellent. Golden Raisin Aug 2019 #13