TMI

[orleans]

5. i could be wrong but when you said

"Every time someone asks, she relives the worst two hours of her life in graphic detail" the first thing i thought of was that she *needs* to talk about it.

that's how i was and to a degree i still am

i think about it, i talk about it, i am still trying to work through it but that first couple of years after my mom died--omg--i needed to talk about it so badly and there were only a couple people (and du) that i could really go on about it with.

i don't know. but the fact that you say she goes into "graphic detail" just kind of leads me to think this is one of her ways of working through it, or coming to terms with it--by talking about it.

if she's going into a lot of detail just to be polite & she really doesn't want to talk about it i'm sure most people would understand if she just told them she doesn't want to talk about it now.

and you're right--that other extreme can be just as bad.