Another anniversary and it doesn't get any easier.

[murielm99]

10. How long has it been?

Sometimes we replay that moment for years. I found that in my case, it did get easier over time. Now, when I remember my first husband's death, it is easier if I do happen to remember the worst of those nightmare times. I try not to blame myself for my failings. I try these days to be a comfort to others experiencing those memories.

It is easy for me to say that it gets better. It is not easy for you. I understand that.

You will make it through. Do whatever helps. Let the pain happen. Cry. Yell. You will make it through.

I am trying to help my daughter get through her grief. All I can do is listen and be there. Someday, you may be needed to help someone else you care for. I don't know if that will help get you through, but it might.