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9. Wise words, Peggy.

Eventually the grief and hurt will be less sharp, though it remains under the surface.
Try not to nurse the hurt, Shred.

As far as the brothers, etc. not coming to the funeral - if it's a distance and planes would be necessary - consider the very high cost of plane fares, especially at the last minute. The brothers and others may not be prepared to pay such a high cost. The brothers, assuming they are relatively close to your father-in-law in age, may find traveling difficult, not to mention a hotel and perhaps car rental.
My own brother, who has means, did not travel from the West Coast to my spouse's funeral, on only a few days notice. I do not hold it against him, though I am grateful that my children were here and spouse's only sister and her husband came from the East Coast, likely at great cost.