Atheists & Agnostics

Ron Obvious

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22. I'm a lifelong atheist, and my wife's Lutheran.

Sun Dec 12, 2021, 09:48 PM

Dec 2021

It never caused a problem between us, but her family (her mother) detested me on sight because of it and it's caused problems between them. Apparently she worried about her daughter's "immortal soul" because she stopped going to church pretty much immediately. I'm immune to such talk, but my wife's obviously raised in the culture and it still has emotional impact with her.

My wife's parents are long dead, and I almost wish she would consider going to some sort of church. She's very cut off from it all, especially because we're both retired and because of Covid, but I'd have no interest in joining her. I've suggested UU, but she's not wanted to try that.

I've always been a loner so I don't feel the need for community that she does.

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Hi, everybody! [View all] old as dirt Dec 2021 OP

Welcome to DU. Mr.Bill Dec 2021 #1

Ha! old as dirt Dec 2021 #3

Most Atheists I have met spent some time in Catholic school. Mr.Bill Dec 2021 #15

That's quite possible. old as dirt Dec 2021 #17

Well, I spent time with a Catholic best friend in elementary school. Susan Calvin Dec 2021 #23

I deal with it like you have, recognize it, accept it as an essential part of the human involved, ShazamIam Dec 2021 #2

It still feels a little wierd when we go on a trip. old as dirt Dec 2021 #6

I went through a youthful time when I felt I needed to tell people who sent me various ShazamIam Dec 2021 #12

It can take a little getting used to. old as dirt Dec 2021 #16

I enjoyed the music and now I'm thinking you and your wife are two very fortunate people. ShazamIam Dec 2021 #18

I'm certainly very fortunate to have discovered my wife and her culture. old as dirt Dec 2021 #19

Does your wife just go through the rituals out of habit, or Croney Dec 2021 #4

She doesn't describe it the way you do. old as dirt Dec 2021 #7

Ok. I guess I was asking if she believes in God. Croney Dec 2021 #9

She definately believes in God. old as dirt Dec 2021 #10

I'm Atheist and she's Agnostics. multigraincracker Dec 2021 #5

What church? UU's? (nt) old as dirt Dec 2021 #8

Yep, great bunch of college profs and old hippies. multigraincracker Dec 2021 #11

Hey, if she puts up with you, ... old as dirt Dec 2021 #13

I'm Episcopalian and my husband was raised in the Pentecostal church (his mother's requirement) leftieNanner Dec 2021 #14

If not for the music, then what? old as dirt Dec 2021 #20

Many church choirs are full of old people who sing flat leftieNanner Dec 2021 #21

I've never sung in a choir, but... old as dirt Dec 2021 #24

I'm a lifelong atheist, and my wife's Lutheran. Ron Obvious Dec 2021 #22

I was married ... old as dirt Dec 2021 #25