when you hit puberty (or there about)... there ought to be someone to talk about what happens to us at perimenopause and later! We all hear talk about the hot flashes, etc. But no one talks about that first white hair down there... or what you can do when your butt sags or your boobs hit your waist. Like, surely there were early exercises we could have done to forestall some of the changes a little bit, maybe? Would have been nice to know. Oh, well. Like I said, ain't no one gonna see me without clothes but hubs. And about the only way I can describe it now is that old Stephen King novel "Bag o' Bones." I'm not to the point of laughing about it yet, but I do think it's a mean trick the Universe played, as many years as I spent dieting and at the point where gravity hit, I suddenly dropped all the tonnage without trying! I'm so glad my husband married for my intellect and it's still about as sharp as it's ever been... especially since these days I have to keep it up for the both of us, -and- for my mom, too.
mopinko, I'd love to give you a hug and let you know just how loved you are. This stage of life didn't come with any operating manual for any of us, and we're all feeling our way around it. I got lucky with our group, in that we've been together, most of us now, for nearly 40 years for some of us... the least of us for 30. That's a pretty tight group. We've seen the age creep up on all of us, and tho we're not together all the time, if one's truly in need, we know we only need to yell loud enough, and someone will be there to help. I wish that kind of love and support for you and for everyone here. And believe me, I know how very lucky I am. My husband has had 3 heart attacks. I know I could lose him at any time; every day with him is precious; even those where he drives me insane. Like this morning. 30 minutes to roust him to get him to his Dr.'s appt. God give me strength!
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