Further to my post about my best friend's loser boyfriend

[MIButterfly]

This guy has 19 felony convictions dating back to 2000, nine of which landed him in prison. The most serious current charges for which he is out on bond (which she paid) are delivery of a controlled substance causing death and being a habitual offender. She says he didn't do it. How does she know he didn't do it? Probably because he told her he didn't do it and being the upstanding model citizen that he is, he's probably telling the truth. The prisons are full of people who didn't do it. He probably didn't do any of the other felonies either; the cops are just picking on him because they're jealous of him.

As if that isn't bad enough, the one thing that bothers me the most, that I can't get my head around and can't seem to reconcile with is the fact that she has absolutely no compassion or empathy for the family of the woman who died. The woman was a mother. I've cried over this. Yet my friend doesn't seem to care about that at all. It makes me see her in a whole different light. I feel like I don't even know who she is anymore.

It's really starting to affect my feelings toward her. Am I wrong? Am I being too judgmental? This whole thing has just shocked and saddened me. It just seemed so out of character for her, but maybe it really isn't. Maybe I saw traits in her that really weren't there because I loved her and she'd been my best friend for 60 years.

I thought I had bad taste in men. I want to call up my former boyfriends and tell them I'm sorry I thought so little of them at the end because they really weren't all that bad. At least, not compared to this guy. Yikes.