Sorry you lost your husband.
You have a good attitude. Sounds like you are coming to terms with your situation.
I have a tendency to get stuck in the bad and not "move on".
It's really helpful for me to share.
Since this leg condition, I've gotten closer to several of my friends. I make sure not to wear them down with complaining. But I find people (most) can sustain a lot and be more supportive than I used to think.
It's always been hard for me to ask for help and over the past 5 months I've had to.
I've been pleasantly surprised in most cases.
Also the kindness of strangers. When I first got afflicted I was in a supermarket in a motorized chair. As I waited at check-out, the woman ahead of me (who happened to be a Muslim) asked me if I would like her son (about 7) to place my groceries in the conveyor. I thanked her. Then when I was done she told her son to ask me if I would like him to help me put groceries in the car. I gratefully accepted. That boy is going to grow up to be a fine person.
Also so helpful to share here. I'm glad I reached out. I always learn from others' perspectives. And just being heard and sympathized with is comforting.
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