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bettyellen

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67. Make a list and a plan and hide them. IDs, whatever banking and credit stuff and whatever can fit in

Sun Jul 30, 2017, 08:25 PM

Jul 2017

Two suitcases. Start storing them together in a few locations your drawers so you can pack up one two three.
Reach out to someone at a shelter and make a plan to get them in and help you out of there. Figure out his schedule and plan accordingly for when he leaves the house. Do you own the house together? If you do you may need to consult a lawyer if you can get any out of it.

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What to do about a drunk husband who continues to threaten your life? [View all] angstlessk Jul 2017 OP

I have recorded his threats, but I really am dependent on him angstlessk Jul 2017 #1

How did you record his threats exactly? With what device? PearliePoo2 Jul 2017 #50

My laptop has a mic that records outside voices angstlessk Jul 2017 #58

Leave. eShirl Jul 2017 #2

And go where? I cannot leave while he's in the house angstlessk Jul 2017 #7

Call the cops when he's 'misbehaving,' have them take him into custody, elleng Jul 2017 #17

I am basically home bound...if he leaves, or I have nowhere to go..I cannot take care of myself? angstlessk Jul 2017 #3

Why are you homebound? marylandblue Jul 2017 #9

I am old, and going down the stairs has become a problem angstlessk Jul 2017 #11

Contact a woman's shelter, they will help you find an exit plan. procon Jul 2017 #15

I am on Social Security...and I guess Medicare? angstlessk Jul 2017 #20

Medicare depending on age, medicAID depending on ability and circumstances. elleng Jul 2017 #23

That's really good, see, you have some escape money. procon Jul 2017 #29

Excellent advice. JNelson6563 Jul 2017 #21

I have to be careful because he looks over my shoulder...and I do not have a phone of my own angstlessk Jul 2017 #27

Tracfone. Cheap. No contract. Walmart: less than $20 and you're set. procon Jul 2017 #30

I am home bound, and he collects all things sent to the house. angstlessk Jul 2017 #31

If you're being held prisoner, all the more reason to act urgently and get out. procon Jul 2017 #33

Then you need to make contact w the police and shelter groups via email... and figure out how to bettyellen Jul 2017 #53

Never thought about that...was going to leave with the clothes on my back angstlessk Jul 2017 #63

Make a list and a plan and hide them. IDs, whatever banking and credit stuff and whatever can fit in bettyellen Jul 2017 #67

There is so much stuff to tell..I have NO light in my room angstlessk Jul 2017 #68

Well then you have to work w what you have NOW - the computer- start reaching out NOW bettyellen Jul 2017 #73

THIS mahina Jul 2017 #71

Do you have any outside support? JNelson6563 Jul 2017 #4

No one, I abandoned my family years ago angstlessk Jul 2017 #5

Siblings? sharedvalues Jul 2017 #41

That IS a possibility...will have to think thids out...I would LOVE angstlessk Jul 2017 #64

I really hope it works out for you! sharedvalues Jul 2017 #74

Leave. WhiteTara Jul 2017 #6

Go to Al-Anon meetings for support marylandblue Jul 2017 #8

Leave! Its the way and you know that already, yeah? procon Jul 2017 #10

How to go...where to go? angstlessk Jul 2017 #13

See my reply #15 above. procon Jul 2017 #24

Leave CatMor Jul 2017 #12

I connected to one organization about him raising an ax over my head angstlessk Jul 2017 #16

That's awful CatMor Jul 2017 #22

You need to leave ASAP. A belligerent drunk can turn violent at any time. Warpy Jul 2017 #14

I cannot leave the house unless he is gone angstlessk Jul 2017 #18

Elder services might be able to help you if you're over 60 Warpy Jul 2017 #28

Please contact a women's shelter. cwydro Jul 2017 #19

Call police then is a local abuse shelter available the police will help you TEB Jul 2017 #25

You have realized this is a terrible situation. Laffy Kat Jul 2017 #26

Hoping you can take advice from these good people, some have been there. I know it's tough. Hoyt Jul 2017 #32

Tough is an understatement...but I am sure my life depends on it angstlessk Jul 2017 #36

Your future can't be worse than it is now. Who knows, Medicare will cover treatment for your husband Hoyt Jul 2017 #39

Your future is to be a person who has enough resources to meet her needs, and who Squinch Jul 2017 #76

This post refuses to post angstlessk Jul 2017 #34

Heres a link with some. Good luck, it's difficult to get out, but worth it uppityperson Jul 2017 #38

Thank you! Not sure which one I called that got him arrested.. angstlessk Jul 2017 #46

You have dogs? What will happen to them when you leave? PearliePoo2 Jul 2017 #75

I am a survivor of DA jodymarie aimee Jul 2017 #35

You think I am looking for attention? I have been here since it began and barely post angstlessk Jul 2017 #40

Here is my history with this man angstlessk Jul 2017 #56

You're way off base. chervilant Jul 2017 #59

I will need to plan my escape carefully angstlessk Jul 2017 #60

It sounds to me chervilant Jul 2017 #61

I have tapes of his threats angstlessk Jul 2017 #62

He held an axe over your head and then made you order two more? PearliePoo2 Jul 2017 #37

Oh Gosh...I forgot..I can call from my laptop! angstlessk Jul 2017 #42

You don't have a landline phone at your house? PearliePoo2 Jul 2017 #45

no cooking...cans of food only..I used to cook, he used to cook, now only canned food. angstlessk Jul 2017 #47

Don't wait, call. Even if you get interrupted help will come. nt procon Jul 2017 #57

Make a resolution to do SOMETHING every day sharedvalues Jul 2017 #43

I like that...maybe not as you say, but as I can angstlessk Jul 2017 #69

you should quit stalling and get out of there Kali Jul 2017 #44

Wait, you haven't left your home for 11 years? marylandblue Jul 2017 #49

Don't know if I'm afraid to, or just can't? angstlessk Jul 2017 #54

You need an assessment by a doctor, they'll probably take you marylandblue Jul 2017 #65

Sounds like some form of 'depression.' elleng Jul 2017 #72

Hmm. cwydro Aug 2017 #78

Please get help shenmue Jul 2017 #48

angstlessk, here are some quick resources for you. procon Jul 2017 #51

What brought this all to a head...a kitten! angstlessk Jul 2017 #52

You have the internet... use it. procon Jul 2017 #55

Is Linda family? pandr32 Jul 2017 #66

Run, honey. mahina Jul 2017 #70

He now brought in the kitty he kicked out AND her sister angstlessk Aug 2017 #77

from this group sop- mopinko Aug 2017 #79