I need a safe place to say this... this could include triggers

[No Vested Interest]

5. Such a sad and cruel experience you had, HereSince1628.

Any rational person who reads such a story aches for the child - you- who was mistreated.
However, apparently you also realize that your terrible childhood is not the typical experience, either here or worldwide.

No, parents who lose a child in military service are not any better people than others, per se.
However, those parents are recognized by their fellow nationals as persons who have suffered a great loss for the country their child served.
Even when we recognize that the war which took the lives of so many children was an unjust and unnecessary war, we acknowledge the motive of serving one's country as a good thing.