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[Tobin S.]

5. Thanks, mo.

I think the turn in my thinking about things that happened when I was growing up came when I realized that I have made some bad mistakes in my life as well. I've hurt people. I understood to get past that personal shame I had to learn how to forgive myself. Then I realized that we are all growing and evolving as we age. There are things that we do when we are young adults, when many people start having children, when we are not very wise and not very aware of the way our minds work. Most people do not intend to hurt other people, but it happens and I think it's mostly done before we have had a chance to evolve personally.

We all change and most of us grow psychologically as we age. It's probably natural to be angry at your parents about some things when you are a young adult. When you find a way to move past it is when you start to really grow as a human being.

*Note: I'm not talking about forgiving people who are guilty of terrible abuse. For some people, it is necessary to cut all ties to family relations due to the level of toxicity and past crimes.