I am having a real hard time forgiving and deciding what to do with my "boyfriend"

[Feral Child]

12. Co-Dependency

From WIKI:

"Codependency is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (typically narcissism or drug addiction); and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of, or control of, another."



You absolutely need to break away. You can not fix this person and need to take care of yourself. This isn't a moral judgment; the man is sick and he's making you sick. Seriously, he repaid your kindness by heaving a brick at your house: would you have imagined yourself tolerating that behavior before you met this guy?

I don't mean to sound mean, but you're enabling his behavior by helping him survive; he will never actually commit to any treatment for his disease whilst you continue to support him. The best thing you can do for him (and the essential thing you must do for yourself) is to cut ties and let him fall hard enough he seeks help. In the jargon, he has to "hit bottom".

PLEASE: You need to go to an "open" AA meeting (one that allows non-alcoholics to participate) and soak up some knowledge. You'll meet caring, knowledgeable people that will be most willing to educate you and help.

Please feel free to PM me if you'd like to discuss this privately.