had to call the police to take my husband to the hospital yesterday

[BeHereNow]

4. I am so sorry...you did the right thing calling the police, so don't feel guilty!

He sounds BP to me, although I am no doctor.
It can be terrifying and traumatic to love an untreated BP.
I've been there.

Fortunately my BP family member has accepted diagnosis and treatment.
It's not always consistent, but life has gotten much more bearable in combination
with me taking care of myself!

You MUST not take his behavior personally- that is rule number one
in loving a BP- if he is indeed one.
There definitely IS some problem, no doubt and whether it is BP
or PTSD- you must not internalize any abusive behavior towards you-
Hard to do, I know, but necessary if you and the relationship are to survive.
DO NOT- I repeat, DO NOT engage with him when the situation escalates.
Tell him you love him and go for a walk. Calmly.

Be consistent in this course of action should crisis arise.

Find a friend to hug you if you need a hug- cyber hugs from me btw.
If you are sexually frustrated by his lack of attention- find a way to release it by yourself,
if you get my drift.

Take care of yourself and do not expect it from him- he is not capable of
caring for himself, so how much do you expect he can be there for you?

If you ever want to talk- PM me.

BHN