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FirstLight

(15,489 posts)
11. I feel you,
Wed Apr 9, 2025, 07:57 PM
Apr 2025

For the most part my parents were genuinely loving and interested in me as a person. And, they also wanted to change me from who I was to fitting the mold better. I don't think that generation had a clue regarding much of child psychology. They were just doing the best they knew, and there were generations of trauma in all of our families bleeding down into that. When you look at it all on a grander scale, you can see where many of us here now are really the pivot points for our entire family's trauma map. I'm glad that you got to have a better relationship with your mother later, my mom and I definitely had our ups and downs too but I loved them so much and I still cry. The other day I had something really great happen in my life and I wanted so badly to call my mom and talk to her and tell her I was so excited, but I know she knows anyway 😞🥰

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Discovery From My Past. [View all] BlueKota Apr 2025 OP
Forgiveness and forgetting are two separate things UpInArms Apr 2025 #1
Thank you so much! BlueKota Apr 2025 #4
My therapist talked to me about forgiveness synni Apr 2025 #2
Thank you. BlueKota Apr 2025 #5
You didn't deserve that BluKota... Clouds Passing Apr 2025 #3
Thank you! BlueKota Apr 2025 #6
I agree with Clouds Passing. ShazzieB Apr 2025 #9
I think the mother daughter relationships BlueKota Apr 2025 #13
It takes years of trauma therapy to reach a point of feeling like we do deserve to be here Clouds Passing Apr 2025 #16
My mother blew hot and cold. ShazzieB Apr 2025 #7
I feel you, FirstLight Apr 2025 #11
It's hard when your family doesn't understand BlueKota Apr 2025 #14
I am sorry that you went through that. UniqueUserName Apr 2025 #8
Mostly I said it that way BlueKota Apr 2025 #12
BlueKota, you write so well. UniqueUserName Apr 2025 #15
We are born this way. Clouds Passing Apr 2025 #17
That, and each individual has different experiences and influences BlueKota Apr 2025 #20
I had to learn how to have my own back, no one else would. Clouds Passing Apr 2025 #21
Thank you. BlueKota Apr 2025 #18
So much of our parents is a product of their generation FirstLight Apr 2025 #10
There are definitely teachers who should have BlueKota Apr 2025 #19
When I read 'The Taming Of The Shrew' in the fifth grade, I thought it was written about my mother. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Apr 2025 #22
It's difficult when Mom's are like that. BlueKota Apr 2025 #23
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