Need to vent.

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24. I would call a family meeting.

Tell your husband that you need his help because you're starting to feel overwhelmed by the overtime at work, plus the chores at home.

Hopefully, without any more prompting he will volunteer to do more around the house. If that happens, great! But don't leave it as a vague commitment on his part to do more - tell him you'd feel better if you knew exactly what chores each of you is going to be doing (obviously, you want to have developed a wish-list ahead of time so that you actually get the relief you need). Then negotiate the specifics.

If he isn't sympathetic enough to volunteer to do more, then present what you think is a reasonable distribution of labor, and negotiate something specific.

1) Make him sympathetic about your problem before you talk about the details. 2) Get a specific commitment about chores!

Hopefully it doesn't come to therapeutic intervention. Distribution of labor at home is something that almost all couples/partners have to work out.

Good luck! Stand up for yourself, but be civil about it.