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judesedit

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18. I'm truly sorry that you are putting yourself through this neglect

Thu Mar 2, 2023, 09:02 PM

Mar 2023

Each time she calls, you should tell her if she doesn't have anything nice to say, you don't want to talk to her. It is affecting your health. It's not about love. You still love her, but you love yourself, too. Have a lovely day. Bye bye.

It takes a long time to realize that people can't abuse you unless you let them. Maybe you feel like you need to be punished for some reason. Ask yourself that question and give yourself an honest answer.

Many times you will see it is the other person projecting onto you their own faults. Then take a deep breath. It is freeing when you see the truth.

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I was always her mother. [View all] debm55 Mar 2023 OP

I'm sorry and belated happy birthday 🎈 questionseverything Mar 2023 #1

Are you ok? kozar Mar 2023 #2

Kozar, I don't ever feel okay. I try as hard as I can to make it one day at a time. I do have a debm55 Mar 2023 #5

But you can train yourself to stop thinking all thoughts. For periods of time Maraya1969 Mar 2023 #11

I will try your suggestion. Thank you. debm55 Mar 2023 #12

I'm so happy you have a wonderful husband. That's amazing, considering everything. pnwmom Mar 2023 #29

I was engaged at 18 to an abuser. Sent him back his ring in the mail, as I was afraid of what he debm55 Mar 2023 #34

You don't have to do any of that if you don't want to. Your primary obligation pnwmom Mar 2023 #38

I hope sharing this helps you some. KarenS Mar 2023 #3

why do you put up with her Skittles Mar 2023 #4

Skittles, I stopped contact. When I was 18, I moved 100 miles away and went to Penn State. She debm55 Mar 2023 #6

I can sympathize Skittles Mar 2023 #7

I have always been her emotional go to person. She has told me, I took her husband away from her as debm55 Mar 2023 #8

try to realize she is mentally ill Skittles Mar 2023 #15

If her mother abused you sexually, wnylib Mar 2023 #35

Sending you hugs MLAA Mar 2023 #9

I would stop talking to her. Karadeniz Mar 2023 #10

Happy belated birthday! Sending you good wishes for some personal peace. Lonestarblue Mar 2023 #13

Hugggggs. Wishing you a belated Happy Birthday, and the gift of peace. niyad Mar 2023 #14

Wishing you a belated Happy Birthday Rhiannon12866 Mar 2023 #16

Happy SpamWyzer Mar 2023 #17

I'm truly sorry that you are putting yourself through this neglect judesedit Mar 2023 #18

Happy Birthday to you debm55. MontanaMama Mar 2023 #19

They don't separate the categories of personality disorder out the way they used to. pnwmom Mar 2023 #24

Yes, it's sometimes a long journey. Joinfortmill Mar 2023 #28

Wishing you gademocrat7 Mar 2023 #20

Happy birthday 🎁🎂🎊 live love laugh Mar 2023 #21

Damn, I hope you take care of yourself n/t hibbing Mar 2023 #22

I am so sorry you had to deal with a lifetime of abuse. It cannot be minimized. It takes a toll that Evolve Dammit Mar 2023 #23

You are an amazing person people Mar 2023 #25

I guess it worked differently for me. As I went to Penn State for 2 years and switched to teaching. debm55 Mar 2023 #36

Sending you prayers and hugs. Joinfortmill Mar 2023 #26

Having had a parent who was a narcissist, I understand the guilt they can inspire. pnwmom Mar 2023 #27

I've broken free of this kind of craziness a few times in my life... hunter Mar 2023 #30

I totally understand. Duppers Mar 2023 #31

I feel your pain. Hang tough debm55, take care of YOURSELF. LoisB Mar 2023 #32

Ah, but you write such beautiful posts over in the Lounge, asking us lovely questions. NNadir Mar 2023 #33

Happy belated Birthday. 🎉🎂 onecaliberal Mar 2023 #37

I completely empathize with your situation. virgdem Mar 2023 #39