Mom was just diagnosed with cancer in her kidney.

[Tab]

4. First, I'm sorry to hear that

and how people take cancer depends a lot on what stage it is and what mental state they're in. It's a knockout, pretty much wherever you are.

I would first encourage you to try to accurately assess where she is. Beyond that, it's very personal. I know that my main wish is to pass on to my son (or anyone else who's interested) my life experiences, and encourage her to talk about that. But, as I said, it's personal, and not everyone wants to do that (or is ready to do that). I would mainly encouraqge her to share what she knows to her younger generation (you).

There's no need to make rash choices right now. I would also encourage you to help her put legal things to rest (e.g.: power of attorney if she's not healthy, or a living will.

However, I don't know that there are any choices to be made - if she wants treatment, that's one thing, but I know it's a hard thing to wrap your brain around and accept. My personal issue is slow-moving, but I don't know where she is (hence trying to assess it). If it's fast-moving, I don't have any experience there- maybe someone else does. I wish both you and her the best.

Also, check in please - either on the forum or a PM, so we can help each other.

- Tab

p.s.: on edit: What you do outside of this forum is none of our concern. Cancer is a common enemy. Help us fight it.