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NNadir

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12. Thats a lovely story. My wife was in her 30s when we had our first...
Thu Feb 12, 2026, 09:22 AM
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...I was in my 40s.

I would have been a terrible father if I'd become one in my 20s or even my 30s.

For the record, lots of things did go wrong with the birth of my first son. Both he and my wife had serious complications.

That young man is now in his early 30s, falling in love with a wonderful young woman.

All the anxiety, the surgeries, etc, are distant memories. It all came out wonderfully in the end. You may not have seen this when on the delivery and post natal care firing line, that despite the hardships in the early days, it can all work out and bring lots of joy and happiness over the longer term. It's what my wife and I experienced.

You probably know this, having been an older parent. Having an infant when you are older is certainly more physically demanding than it might be for a younger person, but the maturity one has developed makes it much easier to parent with the required wisdom and patience.

Congrats to your family. It is sure to be wonderful. I admire the creativity of the announcement by the way. It indicates they'll be fun and wonderful parents.

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