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Aussie105

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29. I'd be inclined to feign disinterest. Or poverty.

Reply to RamblingRose (Original post)

Sun Aug 24, 2025, 01:01 AM

Aug 24

If money needs to be involved, get them to prove the relationship is legit.
Offer them $10K to be paid 5 years down the track!
(Yes, I'm nasty like that.)

Marriage is the easy bit.
Done it twice myself. Registry office, one witness, minimal costs, no party.
Making it work long term, well, that is hard.
You don't get an award at the start of a marathon, after all. At the end, maybe, if you are good enough.

Seriously, if you have doubts, you really feel it isn't good use of your money. $20K? Jeez!

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Our daughter is getting engaged & is looking for us to foot the bill. $$$$$$ [View all] RamblingRose Aug 23 OP

Nope. My daughter paid for her own wedding. SheltieLover Aug 23 #1

Congratulations & Kudos to them! RamblingRose Aug 23 #2

Thx! 10 yrs ago. SheltieLover Aug 23 #5

You're right--better to use the money as a down payment Bayard Aug 23 #3

My wife and I got married on my parents' front lawn in July 24 years ago. True Dough Aug 23 #4

Mr. Diamond and I had exactly 15 immediate family wedding guests. Diamond_Dog Aug 23 #6

Tell them to keep a secret and elope... ZDU Aug 23 #7

Our daughters learned very early on that we would Ninga Aug 23 #8

We have 2 grown daughters and have poli-junkie Aug 23 #9

Having it in Miami will keep our family & friends away so that'll half the cost. RamblingRose Aug 23 #11

We paid for it ourselves Nictuku Aug 23 #10

Too funny.. cilla4progress Aug 23 #14

I Loved Gunne Sax dresses! I had one for prom & homecoming. RamblingRose Aug 23 #15

I used to go to the Gunne Sax factory in SF kimbutgar Aug 23 #19

Wow! Had no idea! justaprogressive Aug 23 #22

I've never understood why anyone would want to pay big bucks for their wedding. Half the time they Vinca Aug 23 #12

If you can & want to pay towards a wedding, make the couple sign an iron clad contract: NO DIVORCE or pay $ back Attilatheblond Aug 23 #13

My mom would say "The bigger they are the harder they fall." My neighbor was married at The Biltmore, divorced 5 years RamblingRose Aug 23 #16

Your mom sounds like a pretty down to earth observer of trends Attilatheblond Aug 23 #17

I think Rebl2 Aug 24 #32

A wedding in May Marthe48 Aug 23 #18

My mom is pretty upset about them catering to his grandmother since she's the same age. She had offered to help w/ some RamblingRose Aug 23 #24

Those getting married need to understand it's about the marriage Grim Chieftain Aug 23 #20

I told my daughters I'd pay for them to elope to Vegas. Dulcinea Aug 23 #21

A fun story about our wedding was the photographer we hired. He was a dentist & did weddings for extra income. RamblingRose Aug 23 #23

This message was self-deleted by its author Skittles Aug 23 #25

A lot now DetroitLegalBeagle Aug 23 #26

'Haven't done any research yet,' elleng Aug 23 #27

My niece got married last November... Mark.b2 Aug 24 #28

I'd be inclined to feign disinterest. Or poverty. Aussie105 Aug 24 #29

They've been dating for about 8 years & moved to Baltimore together in 2021. His one sister does not like her. She RamblingRose Aug 24 #30

My husband Rebl2 Aug 24 #31