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BlueWaveNeverEnd

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39. "The mental load" women try to explain to men that they are carrying the mental load

Thu Jun 4, 2026, 01:20 AM

15 hrs ago

And men dont get it.

The mental load equals

Kids lunch, school clothes, homework, all the stuff required for school
Meals, groceries for meals
Everything required to run and maintain a home

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Most Women sit around watching "A brighter Day" ..polishing their nails... chouchou 22 hrs ago #2

What is "A brighter Day"? TIA Celerity 20 hrs ago #15

A reference to the "soap operas" that women supposedly have nothing niyad 20 hrs ago #16

never heard of it Celerity 20 hrs ago #20

I had never heard of that one, either, so I looked it up. Wayyyyyyyyyy niyad 19 hrs ago #23

One of the ridiculous daytime Dramas that could have wasted one's life away. chouchou 17 hrs ago #37

I've never been a huge fan PatSeg 6 hrs ago #47

Unfortunately, Your words are True. chouchou 5 hrs ago #49

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My husband and I were invited to a dinner, the first time we saw that.. chouchou 1 hr ago #60

Do you remember ... oldsoldierfadingfast 37 min ago #62

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Symptom of a bigger issue Lithos 22 hrs ago #5

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So Far Timewas 22 hrs ago #6

Until the 70's, women could do little financially on their own. paleotn 19 hrs ago #25

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Same thing happened to my spouse in 1986 Farmer-Rick 7 hrs ago #44

I lived those days Lifeafter70 18 hrs ago #33

BTW StoolPigeon 22 hrs ago #7

Oh right... men have nothing but problems getting a lawyer! ihaveaquestion 21 hrs ago #9

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Being a single parent H2O Man 20 hrs ago #19

Lawyers won't take your money? Oh really. paleotn 19 hrs ago #26

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Men can't afford lawyers? johnp3907 17 hrs ago #35

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I feel it for you malaise 20 hrs ago #22

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We are here for you, V SheltieLover 19 hrs ago #30

If you have a healthcare provider you regularly talk to Sympthsical 18 hrs ago #32

Thanks... slightlv 15 hrs ago #38

So pleased to hear this Sympthsical 15 hrs ago #40

Same here in reverse - playing parent to a 5 year old wife who is 82. Aussie105 15 hrs ago #41

I hear you. Friends we've had for 20 years slightlv 2 hrs ago #59

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And then get no credit for either and blamed for everything Tumbulu 20 hrs ago #11

And that is putting it VERY politely. niyad 20 hrs ago #13

Unless you believe the "rumors" that Harris actually won. Which I do. slightlv 20 hrs ago #18

I mean...everyone is. It's just that women, for the most part, picked up the slack for some time, and now are not. WhiskeyGrinder 20 hrs ago #14

As a single father who raised three daughters BeneteauBum 19 hrs ago #24

Thank you so much for including the video link. I will look at it later, niyad 19 hrs ago #29

"Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." DET 17 hrs ago #34

GREAT and VERY TRUE line! Jack Valentino 17 hrs ago #36

"The mental load" women try to explain to men that they are carrying the mental load BlueWaveNeverEnd 15 hrs ago #39

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