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Maeve

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199. Actually, having taken your time was a good thing

Sat Mar 7, 2026, 08:20 AM

Saturday

Yesterday we talked to the minister and cleared out her room at assisted care. The funeral is not til Monday. At first it's all "gotta do this, gotta do that" and overwhelming. Then comes some quiet and a chance for peace.
It's been a helluva week. And John Denver's songs have been an important part of my life. Thank you

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For my friends and fiends, fellow DUers--I have not been around much lately [View all] Maeve Mar 1 OP

Coming your way. It's tough losing a loved one. Be at peace, also. CurtEastPoint Mar 1 #1

Thank you. She's at peace, so I can be Maeve Mar 2 #84

That sucks, even when it's expected. buzzycrumbhunger Mar 1 #2

It does, indeed, suck. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #85

Sending you strength... Drum Mar 1 #3

Appreciated. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #86

My sincere condolences, Miss Maeve. 💐 Deuxcents Mar 1 #4

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #87

Deepest condolences SheltieLover Mar 1 #5

Thank you and hugs back Maeve Mar 2 #88

Your mother Clouds Passing Mar 1 #6

I will, thank you Maeve Mar 2 #89

My dear Maeve UpInArms Mar 1 #7

I wish I could say how much that means to me. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #90

My sincere condolences, Maeve. greatauntoftriplets Mar 1 #8

Appreciated, a chara Maeve Mar 2 #91

Deepest sympathy Maeve malaise Mar 1 #9

Thank you. I knew I'd get group hugs here! Maeve Mar 2 #92

One more malaise Mar 2 #98

💔☮️🌺🌻🕯️🕊️💜 Cha Mar 1 #10

It was expected yet so sudden at the end. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #93

I'm so sorry for your loss. yardwork Mar 1 #11

That is exactly the right phrase for an Irish wake. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #94

Take care of yourself. Hugs. Srkdqltr Mar 1 #12

Appreciated. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #95

I'm so sorry! cate94 Mar 1 #13

Thank you so much Maeve Mar 2 #96

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, Maeve. 💙 sheshe2 Mar 1 #14

I'm just glad I was there with her at the end. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #97

Wow, that's tough Maeve CountAllVotes Mar 1 #15

I will, thank you Maeve Mar 2 #99

May her memory always be for a blessing. PCIntern Mar 1 #16

Beautiful. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #100

Big hug. ananda Mar 1 #17

I'm glad I was there for her. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #101

My sympathy to you and your family Maeve. May livetohike Mar 1 #18

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #102

Blessings on you, Maeve* mcar Mar 1 #19

You are right, it will be a long process. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #103

I'm so sorry Maeve JMCKUSICK Mar 1 #20

Thank you so much Maeve Mar 2 #104

Hey, Maeve, it sounds like you gave all. calimary Mar 1 #21

You are too kind. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #105

So sorry for your loss. Dear_Prudence Mar 1 #22

Thank you. I appreciate it Maeve Mar 2 #106

My deepest condolences, Maeve. brer cat Mar 1 #23

I'm glad I was there at the end. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #107

Dear Maeve, I send my love and understanding. ShazamIam Mar 1 #24

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #108

Sending! 2naSalit Mar 1 #25

Appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #109

Hugs and wishes Figarosmom Mar 1 #26

Thank you so much Maeve Mar 2 #110

Goodness. I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I pray for strength for you. LoisB Mar 1 #27

Appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #111

You know we all are with you. mercuryblues Mar 1 #28

That's why I posted. DUers are amazing! Maeve Mar 2 #112

Even at 95 years old, and having years to prepare, I know it will be hard to deal with. patphil Mar 1 #29

What a great reminder, patphil! calimary Mar 1 #56

Slowly and then all at once. Yes, the next couple of weeks will be difficult. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #113

Sorry for your loss SocialDemocrat61 Mar 1 #30

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #114

I am so sorry. pandr32 Mar 1 #31

Appreciated. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #115

Hugs SallyHemmings Mar 1 #32

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #116

So sorry for your loss, Maeve 70sEraVet Mar 1 #33

Thank you so much Maeve Mar 2 #117

Blessings to you. I'm so happy you had her for that long!💜💜💜💜 1WorldHope Mar 1 #34

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #119

Stay strong and find peace. NoMoreRepugs Mar 1 #35

I will. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #120

Deepest condolences to you on the loss of virgdem Mar 1 #36

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #121

Prayers said for your family. hamsterjill Mar 1 #37

And I am lucky to have family to help. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #122

Holding you in light and love, dear Maeve. hugggggggggggggs niyad Mar 1 #38

DUers are the best! Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #123

So sorry for your loss! senseandsensibility Mar 1 #39

It comes in waves and yes, that makes it hard. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #124

I am so very sorry to read this irisblue Mar 1 #40

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #125

I understand. I've been a caregiver over a decade now, and I often think that should my love die, PatrickforB Mar 1 #41

Yeah, my week will lose some of its shape with her gone. Take care of yourself as well. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #126

(((gentle hug))) 🫂 mwmisses4289 Mar 1 #42

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #127

I'm so sorry. MontanaMama Mar 1 #43

I knew she wouldn't live long, but she went so fast it was a shock. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #128

You've got it! Sincere condolences. paleotn Mar 1 #44

My dad's been gone 46 years, but he still pops up in my dreams now and then. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #129

I'm so sorry, Maeve. I lost my mother several years ago, after years of being her caregiver (including highplainsdem Mar 1 #45

Thank you--quick story about signs Maeve Mar 2 #130

How perfect, to find that now. She'll appreciate it. highplainsdem Mar 2 #184

That was beautiful. Thank you again Maeve Mar 2 #187

So sorry for your loss, Maeve LNM Mar 1 #46

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #131

I'm so sorry, Maeve. swimboy Mar 1 #47

Appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #132

My deepest sympathies bamagal62 Mar 1 #48

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #133

So sorry, you're in my thoughts. CaptainTruth Mar 1 #49

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #134

Sorry for your loss hibbing Mar 1 #50

I'm glad I could be there but it did get trying at times. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #135

Oh, so sorry bdamomma Mar 1 #51

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #136

Sorry for your loss Tree Lady Mar 1 #52

Appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #137

(((BIG HUGS))) BumRushDaShow Mar 1 #53

Thank you, my friend Maeve Mar 2 #138

Take your time BumRushDaShow Mar 2 #148

And I have family to help, too Maeve Mar 2 #151

When my mom passed just over 10 years ago BumRushDaShow Mar 2 #155

Mom was in assisted care, so little property Maeve Mar 2 #158

Understood BumRushDaShow Mar 2 #176

Deepest sorrow for your mom and you. May the memories of your mom be a blessing to you, Sweet Maeve. debm55 Mar 1 #54

That is so sweet. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #139

... Aristus Mar 1 #55

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #140

Comforting warmth headed your way Lifeafter70 Mar 1 #57

I will, thanks Maeve Mar 2 #141

Hi Maeve berniesandersmittens Mar 1 #58

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #142

I am so sorry mgardener Mar 1 #59

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #143

.. BlueWaveNeverEnd Mar 1 #60

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #144

So sorry for your loss ornotna Mar 1 #61

Appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #145

I understand so well. Staph Mar 1 #62

Oh, my! Blessings on you, as well! Maeve Mar 2 #146

Sending gentle hugs and strength as you deal with your sad loss and inch your way through this. 🩷 KitFox Mar 1 #63

It does feel like a slog, thank you Maeve Mar 2 #147

So sorry for your loss ms liberty Mar 1 #64

Thank you I knew DUers would step up Maeve Mar 2 #149

Dear Maeve, I am so very sorry for the loss of your mom Grim Chieftain Mar 1 #65

Thank you. I'm glad I was there at the end Maeve Mar 2 #150

You have my sympathy KT2000 Mar 1 #66

Thank you. And my dear Hubby will help take care of me! Maeve Mar 2 #152

My condolences on the loss of your mother MustLoveBeagles Mar 1 #67

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #153

My heart is with you. Hope22 Mar 1 #68

I will, thanks Maeve Mar 2 #154

Comforting hugs, Maeve radical noodle Mar 1 #69

Thank you. DUers are the best! Maeve Mar 2 #191

I'm so sorry for your loss. area51 Mar 2 #70

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #159

You are loved. mr715 Mar 2 #71

I feel it. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #160

Sending all sorts of positive thoughts and prayers Laurelin Mar 2 #72

Appreciate it. This thread has helped Maeve Mar 2 #161

More tan an ice for you Stinky The Clown Mar 2 #73

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #162

I am so sorry, Maeve. My condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope Mar 2 #74

Appeciate it Maeve Mar 2 #163

So sorry, Maeve. summer_in_TX Mar 2 #75

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #164

My condolences. You think you're ready, but you're not. DFW Mar 2 #76

I have Hubby to see I don't overdo Maeve Mar 2 #165

Dear Maeve, I am so sorry for your loss. MIButterfly Mar 2 #77

I just had time to realize she was at the end and she was gone Maeve Mar 2 #166

Maeve, my heart is with you. ❤️ Silver Gaia Mar 2 #78

Thank you so much Maeve Mar 2 #167

Surrounding you in Emerald Green healing energy Bread and Circuses Mar 2 #79

It is the season for the green, true Maeve Mar 2 #168

♥️ 💚 ☘️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ 💚 ☘️ 🙏🏻 a kennedy Mar 2 #80

No words needed! Thank you, my friend Maeve Mar 2 #169

Restorative Thoughts headed you way. SleeplessinSoCal Mar 2 #81

Appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #170

🙏 my deepest sympathy 🙏 TommieMommy Mar 2 #82

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #171

Sending good vibes your way! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Mar 2 #83

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #172

I am sorry for your loss JoseBalow Mar 2 #118

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #173

deepest condolences ... sarchasm Mar 2 #156

Appreciate it. I will Maeve Mar 2 #174

This message was self-deleted by its author jfz9580m Mar 2 #157

I have been in charge of Mom's finances for several years Maeve Mar 2 #175

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom. Nevilledog Mar 2 #177

Just the love y'all have shown in this thread is sufficient Maeve Mar 2 #189

I am truly sorry for your loss. Erda Mar 2 #178

Appreciated, thanks Maeve Mar 2 #190

Very sorry for your loss dlk Mar 2 #179

I feel you MaineNative Mar 2 #180

Welcome to DU, MaineNative. calimary Mar 2 #185

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #192

Just remember to give yourself some time Old Crank Mar 2 #181

I will, thank you Maeve Mar 2 #193

(((BIG HUG))) proud patriot Mar 2 #182

Thank you, I needed that Maeve Mar 2 #194

Thoughts and prayers on their way, air mail special delivery. Permanut Mar 2 #183

We often think it will be easier, knowing they lived so long. Not so. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #195

Thanks for letting us know, Maeve. calimary Mar 2 #186

I've known some of you for the better part of 25 years. I trusted that you'd lift me up, and I was right! Maeve Mar 2 #196

My sincere sympathy at the loss of your mother. No matter how old we are we will always miss them. pazzyanne Mar 2 #188

Much appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #197

I am so sorry, Maeve FemDemERA Friday #198

Actually, having taken your time was a good thing Maeve Saturday #199