Bereavement
Related: About this forumOne month ago today, my dear friend AndyS died.
I am glad this month is gone. It has given me space from Andy's death. I look back at that and I am relieved that my sorrow seems to have abated.
He is definitely at peace, and he needed to be. Until he got into hospice, he'd been in a lot of pain. Hospice took care of that.
Now I can more readily see the good things and times that we shared. I am honored that he cared deeply for me, as I did for him.
I now have hope that the road forward will show me more of the goodness we shared, and less of the painful loss that his death brought me.

MLAA
(19,260 posts)
CaliforniaPeggy
(154,060 posts)
badhair77
(4,876 posts)Im glad youre at a point where you can treasure the memories and have gratitude for your friendship. I hope you can reach a place where you smile when you think of Andy.
CaliforniaPeggy
(154,060 posts)I can smile over the memories now, but sometimes it's through my tears . . . This is going to take some time.
Diamond_Dog
(37,148 posts)Andy left behind quite a legacy and from your photos and memories we all got to know him,too.
Wishing you continued peace, comfort, and beautiful memories of your precious friend.
CaliforniaPeggy
(154,060 posts)His legacy will go on for a while, as long as we who knew him, are here.
He was a remarkably talented man, with a big heart and a smile to match.
You've got it exactly right: he was indeed my precious friend.
sinkingfeeling
(55,256 posts)seem to be walking forward.
Hugs to you.
CaliforniaPeggy
(154,060 posts)Losing Andy was the biggest loss of my life so far.
I suspect the fact that I was an RN helps me cope. Hospitals are full of death. Of course, losing a loved one is a lot different than losing a patient. But the loss still gives me perspective and there is healing in that.
Thank you for the hugs!
Permanut
(7,125 posts)Some of the best things we can leave behind are memories in the hearts of others.
RIP AndyS.
CaliforniaPeggy
(154,060 posts)And I so agree about the best things we can leave behind.
brer cat
(26,977 posts)The pain of his death will never leave, but it will grow weaker as the memories of shared joys and humor grow stronger.
CaliforniaPeggy
(154,060 posts)I do feel as though I'm on the right road. The early days were full of my tears and feelings of disbelief.
I still have both, but much less. Being able to talk about the loss really helps.
I tend to have a sunny, optimistic outlook, and I think that will come to be more dominant as the days and weeks roll past.
LoisB
(10,606 posts)Hugs and peace to you.
CaliforniaPeggy
(154,060 posts)I appreciate your good wishes! They truly help me cope.
applegrove
(126,185 posts)CaliforniaPeggy
(154,060 posts)applegrove
(126,185 posts)there for people. I hope you can soon think back on your friendship and enjoy the memories of the good times.