Advice requested. We were lovers at one time, but still friends after 50 years.

[3Hotdogs]

I visit her and her husband about every 6 weeks since they moved to assisted living, about two hours away.

To the point - She had knee replacement in October and hasn't; recovered from it. She can't get out of her wheelchair and needs help with toilet and so forth. Before the surgery, she followed instructions for pre-operation exercises and after surgery, she faithfully took rehab. No improvement.

So, on Wednesday, she went for an MRI to maybe find a cause for why she has no muscle control. She was looking forward to this in hope of a cure.

If the news was good, I would have expected a phone call, email or text. Neither her nor her husband have communicated. Maybe there hasn't been a follow-up appointment with her physician or maybe the news was that the MRI disclosed nothing.

Should I call to ask about it? If I don't, would it seem like I don't care?

Thoughts?

[ratchiweenie]

1. If you've been friends for 50 years I think calling to find out what happened is the normal thing to do. They let you

know when she was going for the MRI so I don't think it is pushy to call and ask what they found out.

[3Hotdogs]

6. Thx. See my update.

[Karadeniz]

2. Call !!!!

[3Hotdogs]

7. Thx. See my update post.

[c-rational]

3. Call and don't think twice.

[3Hotdogs]

8. Thx. See my update post.

[cyclonefence]

4. call her

unless there is something you're not telling us about your relationship?

Are you in love with her? And afraid your asking will indicate more than friendly interest? If that's it, forget about it and call her anyway.

[3Hotdogs]

5. I called her and the news isn't good.

MRI showed a problem with her spine and initial information is that she will never walk again. She will get a formal report from the neurologist sometime this week.