Eleven no-contact years after the fact

[mac56]

I just reached out to a woman who dumped me a long time ago.
Probably unwise, but I'll see.

[Lochloosa]

1. All that can happen is she says no. Good luck. 👍

[stopdiggin]

2. only reason that squares in this corner

Is if you have some stuff on your end that you'd like to make amends for ...
But - looking for 'different' or 'sorry', coming from the other direction ... ? No - don't think so. That's her territory.
I hope it works out for you - but I don't think I'd get my hopes up.

[True Dough]

9. And that's why

you chose the handle "stopdiggin".

[mac56]

3. Eytan Mirsky FTW

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[lastlib]

12. Wish I had seen this 40 years ago......

We started talking about marriage, and she told me she "wasn't ready to be tied down." (I think the real truth is that her mother persuaded her that I wasn't rich enough, a different story.) We went our separate ways, and eight months later, she invited me to her wedding (to a guy she divorced four years later.)

Long story short, she has inserted herself back into my life since my parents' death, a dozen years or so after her second divorce. I still haven't really come to terms with how to deal with her. I really think there is some mutual love in this, but not sure how strong it is. Complicating it is the fact that we live 900 miles apart.

[bucolic_frolic]

4. Maintain your boundaries to protect yourself.

Time changes people, but some inner parts remain the same.

[AllaN01Bear]

5. please be careful

[Easterncedar]

6. Good luck

I wish I could reach out to apologize to the guy I hurt, but I think he’s better off not thinking of me at all. It would only be in hopes of making me feel less grief and regret. So I don’t.

[womanofthehills]

8. Two guys from high school reached out on Facebook to apologize

For ghosting me. One I think I only went on one date with but they apologized. Last time I saw them I was 19.

One is on his forth wife and has a mistress.

[True Dough]

10. Sounds like

you're definitely better off without that second guy!

[Ponietz]

7. It's nice to be a lunatic

Das ist gut, c'est fantastique

[LudwigPastorius]

11. Ooof

I think we've all thought about doing something like that, but you're going to really need to finesse it to keep from coming off as an obsessed stalker type.

Good luck.