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imanamerican63

(15,069 posts)
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:04 PM May 14

With great regret & sadness.

My mother passed away a little over an hour ago. She is at peace and now is with our father, her parents and her siblings.

She was my rock and I was her’s. A love for everyone of her 9 children no matter what, who or why? She was there without any questions asked. But she was my “go to” political talk.

Peace to all and thank you for support and kindness. It’s deeply appreciated.

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With great regret & sadness. (Original Post) imanamerican63 May 14 OP
So sorry for your loss. greatauntoftriplets May 14 #1
Condolences... Drum May 14 #2
I am deeply sorry for your terrible loss. LiberalLoner May 14 #3
Much love and condolences to you and your family. Basso8vb May 14 #4
Sending a hug. hamsterjill May 14 #5
So sorry senseandsensibility May 14 #6
My sympathy to you and the family and also to livetohike May 14 #7
I'm sorry. A really hard loss. redwitch May 14 #8
Please accept my deepest sympathy for you and your loved ones. Diamond_Dog May 14 #9
So sorry for your loss. OLDMDDEM May 14 #10
Deepest condolences greatlaurel May 14 #11
🕯️ alittlelark May 14 #12
My sincere condolences 💐 Deuxcents May 14 #13
Very sorry for your loss. Now she is at peace. 🙏🙏🙏💙 TommieMommy May 14 #14
Peace and comfort to you and your family. Wingus Dingus May 14 #15
Sorry for your loss Bettie May 14 #16
I'm sorry for your loss. Space Lemon May 14 #17
I'm so very sorry, iamanamerican63 Mike 03 May 14 #18
Holding you and your family in my heart for consolation and strength. So hard to lose Mom! n/t TygrBright May 14 #19
I am sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote May 14 #20
It's so hard to lose a parent. crazylikafox May 14 #21
The woman you describe JMCKUSICK May 14 #22
Oh wow!!! MarineCombatEngineer May 14 #23
My condolences to you and your family on your loss kimbutgar May 14 #24
I'm so sorry for your loss Danmel May 14 #25
May her memory be a blessing... ultralite001 May 14 #26
❤️ underpants May 14 #27
I am so sorry for your loss irisblue May 14 #28
Sending you love and peace. PittBlue May 14 #29
Condolences Orrin_73 May 14 #30
I am so sorry for your loss. MIButterfly May 14 #31
My condolences Libby2 May 14 #32
Sending peaceful vibes Alice Kramden May 14 #33
I'm so sorry. Holding you and your family in my heart. woodsprite May 14 #34
I'm very sorry. While it has been many years since I lost both of my parents, I remember the words of a wise man hlthe2b May 14 #35
So sorry IbogaProject May 14 #36
Sorry for your loss. bluesbassman May 14 #37
Requiescat in pace, dear lady. Holding you and yours in love and light. niyad May 14 #38
My condolences to you and your entire family relayerbob May 14 #39
Sorry... spanone May 14 #40
I'm so sorry. Is there anything we can do to help you? Nevilledog May 14 #41
Best wishes. Paladin May 14 #42
Condolences to you and your family on your loss. 🫂 mwmisses4289 May 14 #43
So sorry for you loss. JohnSJ May 14 #44
So sorry imanamerican63. Nothing prepares us. Nothing. littlemissmartypants May 14 #45
Peace and comfort ornotna May 14 #46
I'm sorry.... JoeOtterbein May 14 #47
Hugs malaise May 14 #48
It sounds like she was a wonderful mother and friend PatSeg May 14 #49
I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom. Those feelings and memories become sweeter with time. dai13sy May 14 #50
Peace. Magoo48 May 14 #51
very sorry to hear. My condolences rurallib May 14 #52
So sorry for your loss, and best wishes as you and your family mourn your mother Lonestarblue May 14 #53
So sorry for your loss. boonecreek May 14 #54
We're all here for you. WinstonSmith4740 May 14 #55
Your Mom Clouds Passing May 14 #56
Deepest condolences to you and your family SheltieLover May 14 #57
You are a wonderful and caring child bedazzled May 14 #58
I'm so sorry IndyPepper May 14 #59
You are in my thoughts Grim Chieftain May 14 #60
condolences and symapthy Richard D May 14 #61
💐🕯️ blm May 14 #62
May her memory always be for a blessing. PCIntern May 14 #63
My sincere condolences. Grumpy Old Guy May 14 #64
So sorry. Strength to you. Peace to her. 🕯 electric_blue68 May 14 #65
Peace and condolences. Dulcinea May 14 #66
So sad... lamp_shade May 14 #67
I am so sorry for your loss. CousinIT May 14 #68
So sorry for your loss..🙏🏽 nt helpisontheway May 14 #69
May her passing be gentle and WhiteTara May 14 #70
"" AllaN01Bear May 14 #71
A professor's kind and very true words... Onlyserious May 14 #72
I'm so sorry, sending lots of hugs your way GreenEyedLefty May 14 #73
She lives on in you now. Botany May 14 #74
Hail the Traveler! Deep State Witch May 14 #75
I'm so sorry for your loss sdfernando May 14 #76
👇 Beachnutt May 14 #77
Huge hugs for you... May she have a great reunion with her family! FirstLight May 14 #78
Hugs to you and your family mercuryblues May 14 #79
I'm so sorry for your loss cate94 May 14 #80
Deepest sympathy orangecrush May 14 #81
Your mom was fortunate to have such love around her. Am sure allegorical oracle May 14 #82
So sorry 70sEraVet May 14 #83
Hugs hugs hugs Chicagogrl1 May 14 #84
sending you aloha mahina May 14 #85
I'm so sorry. You are in my heart. Scrivener7 May 14 #86
So sorry for the loss of your? Mom. 🫂🙏 SimplyHadEnough May 14 #87
She's at rest now Figarosmom May 14 #88
Peace to you lonely bird May 14 #89
My deepest condolences on the loss of your dear Mother. virgdem May 14 #90
I'm so very sorry. benfranklin1776 May 14 #91
My heart goes out to you. pandr32 May 14 #92
I'm sorry for the loss of your Mom, imanamerican63 yonder May 14 #93
Love and condolences to you MustLoveBeagles May 14 #94
I am so sorry. She belongs to The Universe now so she is at peace. Strength and peace to LoisB May 14 #95
You have my condolences. Person of Interest May 14 #96
Sorry blueseas May 14 #97
Love is all there is Richluu May 14 #98
My sympathy for your loss KT2000 May 14 #99
I am so sorry for your loss. NCgayguy May 14 #100
My deepest sympathies to you, your siblings and everyone else whose lives were touched by your mother Kaleva May 14 #101
Really sorry to hear that. You have my sympathy. Blues Heron May 14 #102
My condolences to you, your family and friends. RIP Mom. vishnura May 14 #103
Oh Baby, I am SO sorry to read this. My heart breaks that you've now joined a club that noone wants to ever join. The_REAL_Ecumenist May 14 #104
I'm sorry, Mom's especiallly hard when it's time for her to go Warpy May 14 #105
RIP Passages May 14 #106
So sorry for your loss. c-rational May 14 #107
So very sorry. bluestarone May 14 #108
I wish you comfort and peace. blogslug May 14 #109
Heartfelt, condolences to you and your family. Jit423 May 14 #110
So sorry for your loss blue_jay May 14 #111
My sympathy to you bdamomma May 14 #112
Sounds like she was a terrific Mom. I'm sorry for your loss. chowder66 May 14 #113
My deepest condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope May 14 #114
imanamerican63 dlilafae May 14 #115
Deepest Condolences to you and your family, 63 ReRe May 14 #116
My condolences on your devastating loss, imanamerican63 Niagara May 14 #117
I'm so very sorry for your loss. LuckyCharms May 14 #118
Condolences to you and your family. Tess49 May 14 #119
So sorry for your loss.... Dem4life1970 May 14 #120
I am very sorry for your loss of your mom Meowmee May 14 #121
May your mother Rest in Peace and May her Memory be a Blessing. 🙏. n/t iluvtennis May 14 #122
I'm so sorry. My condolences to you and your family. Your mother was - still is - a treasure, and highplainsdem May 14 #123
I'm very sorry for your loss BlueSpot May 14 #124
so sorry; hard to take; hugs... peacebuzzard May 14 #125
So sorry for your loss. stillcool May 14 #126
😢🙏 claudette May 14 #127
Sorry for your loss. Wish you well in this tough time. n/t marked50 May 14 #128
Condolences, imanamerican63 gademocrat7 May 14 #129
Oh, imanamerican63, I am so deeply sorry for your loss of your treasured mother. I just saw this and KitFox May 15 #130
I'm sorry for your loss. area51 May 15 #131
... ailsagirl May 15 #132
I offer my condolences. diehardblue May 15 #133
My condolences to you and your family bdjhawk May 15 #134
She's at peace now. democrank May 15 #135
Im so sorry for your loss... samnsara May 15 #136
. Rocknation May 15 #137
Very sorry for your loss. PennRalphie May 15 #138
Your mother will always be part of your life. raging moderate May 15 #139
Condolences Jean Genie May 15 #140
So so sorry, may she rest in peace. CaptainTruth May 15 #141

hamsterjill

(15,881 posts)
5. Sending a hug.
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:08 PM
May 14

I'm so sorry for your loss. May your family and friends take care of one another during this time. Remember to breathe, and remember the good times.

senseandsensibility

(22,192 posts)
6. So sorry
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:08 PM
May 14

Last edited Wed May 14, 2025, 02:54 PM - Edit history (1)

I know from experience that it doesn't matter if a loss is expected or sudden. The finality of it is like a sledgehammer. I hope you find peace and may her memory be a blessing.

livetohike

(23,434 posts)
7. My sympathy to you and the family and also to
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:09 PM
May 14

all who knew and loved your mom. May every good memory comfort you and always make you smile .

greatlaurel

(2,013 posts)
11. Deepest condolences
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:13 PM
May 14

So very sorry for your loss. Please take extra good care of yourself to get through this difficult time.

She was a special person to have raised you so very well.

Mike 03

(18,464 posts)
18. I'm so very sorry, iamanamerican63
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:25 PM
May 14

No words could address the sadness and grief you are feeling.

It's very important you treat yourself extra well for a while. Be kind to yourself.

Again, I'm so sad to read this and so sorry you are going through this.

JMCKUSICK

(2,478 posts)
22. The woman you describe
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:33 PM
May 14

Is an absolute Angel and that you have so much to celebrate and remember, is such a gift to carry forward and honor.
May your mother's memory be your conscience and guide imanamerican63.
Love, John

kimbutgar

(25,149 posts)
24. My condolences to you and your family on your loss
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:34 PM
May 14

But Mom will still always be with you in your heart and spirit.

Danmel

(5,435 posts)
25. I'm so sorry for your loss
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:34 PM
May 14

May sweet memories of your beloved mom bring you comfort and peace.

ultralite001

(1,678 posts)
26. May her memory be a blessing...
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:36 PM
May 14

to you in good times + those other times...

Holding you in our 🧡💛💙...

MIButterfly

(426 posts)
31. I am so sorry for your loss.
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:39 PM
May 14

I send you and your loved ones my deepest sympathy at this sad time. I hope loving memories of your mother will eventually provide some measure of comfort in your grief.

Much love to you and yours. ❤️

hlthe2b

(109,899 posts)
35. I'm very sorry. While it has been many years since I lost both of my parents, I remember the words of a wise man
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:42 PM
May 14

who told me that two things happen when you lose your parents (or those close to you):

First, no matter how old you are, how independent, how good or bad your relationship with your parents, there is no feeling more jarring than to think you are now an "orphan" for all intents and purposes...

and
Second, there is a numbness that descends and lasts for months or even years, which helps you get through it. And that numbness allows you to remember the good times without being paralyzed by the sadness.


Those both held for me. I hope the second, especially, holds for you and sustains you.

Paladin

(30,503 posts)
42. Best wishes.
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:47 PM
May 14

Sounds like your mother left you with some good memories---I know from personal experience how valuable such memories are, in difficult circumstances.

littlemissmartypants

(27,756 posts)
45. So sorry imanamerican63. Nothing prepares us. Nothing.
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:49 PM
May 14

I'm sending comfort and love. I hope it helps.

Stay encouraged.



❤️

dai13sy

(557 posts)
50. I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom. Those feelings and memories become sweeter with time.
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:00 PM
May 14

She'll always be part of your heart and your brain so be sure to talk with her to check on her and let her know how you are doing. She wants to know. She loves you

WinstonSmith4740

(3,307 posts)
55. We're all here for you.
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:03 PM
May 14

So sorry to hear, but as you said, she is at peace with those that preceeded her on that journey. Please remember to take care of yourself...it's easy to forget to do that at times like this.

Clouds Passing

(4,922 posts)
56. Your Mom
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:04 PM
May 14


Please know how fortunate you are to have a wonderful mother and a strong relationship with her. She is still with you, she will always be supporting, guiding and loving you.

SheltieLover

(68,389 posts)
57. Deepest condolences to you and your family
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:07 PM
May 14

I hope and trust she had a peaceful crossing.

Continuing to send healing vibes to you and your family.

Please consider grief counseling through the hospice as they are specially trained to help you pick up the pieces.



bedazzled

(1,866 posts)
58. You are a wonderful and caring child
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:08 PM
May 14

You did your best for her, and I am sure she appreciated it!

She will be with you always now. Take time to heal yourself and you will feel her...

Sincere condolences

IndyPepper

(44 posts)
59. I'm so sorry
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:15 PM
May 14

It's always difficult losing a parent, no matter their age. I lost my mother when I was 29 and she was just 53. My father made it to 86, but it was still a very sad day when we had to say goodbye. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers as you navigate this difficult time.

Onlyserious

(106 posts)
72. A professor's kind and very true words...
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:43 PM
May 14

I lost my Dad when I was in graduate school and when I was making arrangements a professor I admired said how sorry he was and then..."You never get over it...but you do get used to it." True in my case.

GreenEyedLefty

(2,109 posts)
73. I'm so sorry, sending lots of hugs your way
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:48 PM
May 14

I was devastated when my mom passed away; she was my best friend and confidante. I hoped to have even a few more years with her, but alas, it was not meant to be.

Beachnutt

(8,711 posts)
77. 👇
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:03 PM
May 14


You are standing upon the seashore.
A ship at your side spreads her white
sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean.
She is an object of beauty and strength.
You stand and watch her until at length
she hangs like a speck of white cloud fading from sight
just where the sea and sky come together.

Then, someone at your side says;
"There, she is gone!"

"Gone where?"
Gone from your sight. That is all.
She is just as large in mast and hull
and spar as she was when she left your side
and she is just as able to bear her
load of living freight to her destined port.
Her diminished size is in you not in her.

And just at the moment when someone
at your side says, "There, she is gone!"
There are other eyes watching her coming on the other shore
and other voices ready to take up the glad shout;
"Here she comes!"

FirstLight

(15,121 posts)
78. Huge hugs for you... May she have a great reunion with her family!
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:04 PM
May 14

My mom passed in 2022, and Dad followed in 2023 (almost the same day, 12 hours difference)

My sister and I used to say what a hell of a party they were having on the other side! They were the last ones alive out of all their friends and family, so I am sure it was a great time!

Hope the thought of a blessed and joyful homecoming help ease your pain. I miss my momma ALL the damn time... :hugs:

Figarosmom

(5,875 posts)
88. She's at rest now
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:37 PM
May 14

You'll never be without her in your life. Since losing my Mom I notice so many things she left behind to remain in our lives. Recipes, ways of doing things like gardening and sewing. All thise little things we take for granted for our day to day survival you will suddenly see her in them.

benfranklin1776

(6,862 posts)
91. I'm so very sorry.
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:41 PM
May 14


Her magnificent spirit and wisdom lives on through you. Wishing you comfort and solace in this your time of great sorrow

pandr32

(13,024 posts)
92. My heart goes out to you.
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:41 PM
May 14

It is a difficult adjustment to life going forward when you lose such close, primary loves.

LoisB

(10,577 posts)
95. I am so sorry. She belongs to The Universe now so she is at peace. Strength and peace to
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:56 PM
May 14

you, the rest of her family and friends for the journey ahead.

Kaleva

(39,405 posts)
101. My deepest sympathies to you, your siblings and everyone else whose lives were touched by your mother
Wed May 14, 2025, 05:21 PM
May 14

The_REAL_Ecumenist

(912 posts)
104. Oh Baby, I am SO sorry to read this. My heart breaks that you've now joined a club that noone wants to ever join.
Wed May 14, 2025, 05:39 PM
May 14

Please accept my deep and sincere sympathy & a virtual hug. May the sadness you feel now soon turn into sweet instances of remembrance when recalling the things you shared with her. She's okay now, out of a body that no longer worked the way it was supposed to and , (in my cultural belief), she's been reunited with all her loved ones who went on before her. Safe and wonderful journey home, Mama ImAnAmerican63.
I KNOW that we do go on because on August 7 1998 @ approx. 4:30am, I died from a perforated duodenal ulcer I didn't know I had. I was clinically dead for 45 minutes, (no heartbeat full respiratory failure) & the things I saw, beyond beautiful. TRUST ME, you'll see her again & the love she has for you will never change.

You have a family of sorts here on DU who are surrounding you with love, sending healing thoughts & comfort. Please don't hesitate to reach out to anyone of this wonderful community if you need to talk. I don't presume to know what you believe in but I hope you don't mind my telling you that my family will be saying prayers for you-for strength, for healing & for the return of your Sunshine.

Bless you, the family & all the people that will miss her as she flew away...

Warpy

(113,434 posts)
105. I'm sorry, Mom's especiallly hard when it's time for her to go
Wed May 14, 2025, 05:49 PM
May 14

We want them to llive forever, but if we're honest, we don't want them to live like that, bodies wearing out due to age.

My mother was also politically astute. When Nixon announced his run in 1968, my mother said "He's going to be impeached if he gets in." He would have been, had he not grabbed his pension and resigned. She spotted Reagan's dementia in 1982. I would love to know her opiinion of this bunch, I would imagine it would be pithy, accurate, and profane, but there is no way I'd have forced her to live to 116 in order to give it.

Just know that the shock will wear off quickly, the waves of grief will eventually fad,e and the memories of who she was will crowd out the ones of her last days. It will get better. It will just take some time.

ReRe

(11,652 posts)
116. Deepest Condolences to you and your family, 63
Wed May 14, 2025, 06:58 PM
May 14

Burning a candle for dear Mother. And for you, dear DU friend.

highplainsdem

(56,151 posts)
123. I'm so sorry. My condolences to you and your family. Your mother was - still is - a treasure, and
Wed May 14, 2025, 08:50 PM
May 14

she'll be watching over you. You may have what seem like signs reassuring you of that, and of her continuing love. Trust them.

BlueSpot

(1,062 posts)
124. I'm very sorry for your loss
Wed May 14, 2025, 09:25 PM
May 14

There will be a lot to process. If you're on good terms with your siblings, that will help. It'll still be hard, so be kind to yourself and give yourself some slack (I don't really know if that's universal but it was something I had to learn to do when I was in a similar situation).

KitFox

(306 posts)
130. Oh, imanamerican63, I am so deeply sorry for your loss of your treasured mother. I just saw this and
Thu May 15, 2025, 12:07 AM
May 15

when I found your previous posts, I see that she was in Hospice care surrounded by you and your family. I hope it will bring you some comfort to always know you were right there with her helping her pass. Love, peace and gentle hugs to you as you inch your way through the next part of your journey. 🩷🩷

raging moderate

(4,575 posts)
139. Your mother will always be part of your life.
Thu May 15, 2025, 10:09 AM
May 15

My mother died many years ago. One day, while I was fixing a quick lunch for myself, a memory of her smile drifted into my mind. Silently, I wondered what she might be experiencing these days. Suddenly, I heard her voice in my mind: "Well, right now, I am fixing a peanut butter sandwich for my daughter." I looked down at my hands working on my sandwich, and suddenly realized that I had watched my mother's hands doing that, many times. And my mother taught me to do so many of the things I do every day, so she really is still with me. And your memories of your mother will comfort you, more and more!

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