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imanamerican63

(15,810 posts)
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:04 PM May 2025

With great regret & sadness.

My mother passed away a little over an hour ago. She is at peace and now is with our father, her parents and her siblings.

She was my rock and I was her’s. A love for everyone of her 9 children no matter what, who or why? She was there without any questions asked. But she was my “go to” political talk.

Peace to all and thank you for support and kindness. It’s deeply appreciated.

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With great regret & sadness. (Original Post) imanamerican63 May 2025 OP
So sorry for your loss. greatauntoftriplets May 2025 #1
Condolences... Drum May 2025 #2
I am deeply sorry for your terrible loss. LiberalLoner May 2025 #3
Much love and condolences to you and your family. Basso8vb May 2025 #4
Sending a hug. hamsterjill May 2025 #5
So sorry senseandsensibility May 2025 #6
My sympathy to you and the family and also to livetohike May 2025 #7
I'm sorry. A really hard loss. redwitch May 2025 #8
Please accept my deepest sympathy for you and your loved ones. Diamond_Dog May 2025 #9
So sorry for your loss. OLDMDDEM May 2025 #10
Deepest condolences greatlaurel May 2025 #11
🕯️ alittlelark May 2025 #12
My sincere condolences 💐 Deuxcents May 2025 #13
Very sorry for your loss. Now she is at peace. 🙏🙏🙏💙 TommieMommy May 2025 #14
Peace and comfort to you and your family. Wingus Dingus May 2025 #15
Sorry for your loss Bettie May 2025 #16
I'm sorry for your loss. Space Lemon May 2025 #17
I'm so very sorry, iamanamerican63 Mike 03 May 2025 #18
Holding you and your family in my heart for consolation and strength. So hard to lose Mom! n/t TygrBright May 2025 #19
I am sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote May 2025 #20
It's so hard to lose a parent. crazylikafox May 2025 #21
The woman you describe JMCKUSICK May 2025 #22
Oh wow!!! MarineCombatEngineer May 2025 #23
My condolences to you and your family on your loss kimbutgar May 2025 #24
I'm so sorry for your loss Danmel May 2025 #25
May her memory be a blessing... ultralite001 May 2025 #26
❤️ underpants May 2025 #27
I am so sorry for your loss irisblue May 2025 #28
Sending you love and peace. PittBlue May 2025 #29
Condolences Orrin_73 May 2025 #30
I am so sorry for your loss. MIButterfly May 2025 #31
My condolences Libby2 May 2025 #32
Sending peaceful vibes Alice Kramden May 2025 #33
I'm so sorry. Holding you and your family in my heart. woodsprite May 2025 #34
I'm very sorry. While it has been many years since I lost both of my parents, I remember the words of a wise man hlthe2b May 2025 #35
So sorry IbogaProject May 2025 #36
Sorry for your loss. bluesbassman May 2025 #37
Requiescat in pace, dear lady. Holding you and yours in love and light. niyad May 2025 #38
My condolences to you and your entire family relayerbob May 2025 #39
Sorry... spanone May 2025 #40
I'm so sorry. Is there anything we can do to help you? Nevilledog May 2025 #41
Best wishes. Paladin May 2025 #42
Condolences to you and your family on your loss. 🫂 mwmisses4289 May 2025 #43
So sorry for you loss. JohnSJ May 2025 #44
So sorry imanamerican63. Nothing prepares us. Nothing. littlemissmartypants May 2025 #45
Peace and comfort ornotna May 2025 #46
I'm sorry.... JoeOtterbein May 2025 #47
Hugs malaise May 2025 #48
It sounds like she was a wonderful mother and friend PatSeg May 2025 #49
I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom. Those feelings and memories become sweeter with time. dai13sy May 2025 #50
Peace. Magoo48 May 2025 #51
very sorry to hear. My condolences rurallib May 2025 #52
So sorry for your loss, and best wishes as you and your family mourn your mother Lonestarblue May 2025 #53
So sorry for your loss. boonecreek May 2025 #54
We're all here for you. WinstonSmith4740 May 2025 #55
Your Mom Clouds Passing May 2025 #56
Deepest condolences to you and your family SheltieLover May 2025 #57
You are a wonderful and caring child bedazzled May 2025 #58
I'm so sorry IndyPepper May 2025 #59
You are in my thoughts Grim Chieftain May 2025 #60
condolences and symapthy Richard D May 2025 #61
💐🕯️ blm May 2025 #62
May her memory always be for a blessing. PCIntern May 2025 #63
My sincere condolences. Grumpy Old Guy May 2025 #64
So sorry. Strength to you. Peace to her. 🕯 electric_blue68 May 2025 #65
Peace and condolences. Dulcinea May 2025 #66
So sad... lamp_shade May 2025 #67
I am so sorry for your loss. CousinIT May 2025 #68
So sorry for your loss..🙏🏽 nt helpisontheway May 2025 #69
May her passing be gentle and WhiteTara May 2025 #70
"" AllaN01Bear May 2025 #71
A professor's kind and very true words... Onlyserious May 2025 #72
I'm so sorry, sending lots of hugs your way GreenEyedLefty May 2025 #73
She lives on in you now. Botany May 2025 #74
Hail the Traveler! Deep State Witch May 2025 #75
I'm so sorry for your loss sdfernando May 2025 #76
👇 Beachnutt May 2025 #77
Huge hugs for you... May she have a great reunion with her family! FirstLight May 2025 #78
Hugs to you and your family mercuryblues May 2025 #79
I'm so sorry for your loss cate94 May 2025 #80
Deepest sympathy orangecrush May 2025 #81
Your mom was fortunate to have such love around her. Am sure allegorical oracle May 2025 #82
So sorry 70sEraVet May 2025 #83
Hugs hugs hugs Chicagogrl1 May 2025 #84
sending you aloha mahina May 2025 #85
I'm so sorry. You are in my heart. Scrivener7 May 2025 #86
So sorry for the loss of your? Mom. 🫂🙏 SimplyHadEnough May 2025 #87
She's at rest now Figarosmom May 2025 #88
Peace to you lonely bird May 2025 #89
My deepest condolences on the loss of your dear Mother. virgdem May 2025 #90
I'm so very sorry. benfranklin1776 May 2025 #91
My heart goes out to you. pandr32 May 2025 #92
I'm sorry for the loss of your Mom, imanamerican63 yonder May 2025 #93
Love and condolences to you MustLoveBeagles May 2025 #94
I am so sorry. She belongs to The Universe now so she is at peace. Strength and peace to LoisB May 2025 #95
You have my condolences. Person of Interest May 2025 #96
Sorry blueseas May 2025 #97
Love is all there is Richluu May 2025 #98
My sympathy for your loss KT2000 May 2025 #99
I am so sorry for your loss. NCgayguy May 2025 #100
My deepest sympathies to you, your siblings and everyone else whose lives were touched by your mother Kaleva May 2025 #101
Really sorry to hear that. You have my sympathy. Blues Heron May 2025 #102
My condolences to you, your family and friends. RIP Mom. vishnura May 2025 #103
Oh Baby, I am SO sorry to read this. My heart breaks that you've now joined a club that noone wants to ever join. The_REAL_Ecumenist May 2025 #104
I'm sorry, Mom's especiallly hard when it's time for her to go Warpy May 2025 #105
RIP Passages May 2025 #106
So sorry for your loss. c-rational May 2025 #107
So very sorry. bluestarone May 2025 #108
I wish you comfort and peace. blogslug May 2025 #109
Heartfelt, condolences to you and your family. Jit423 May 2025 #110
So sorry for your loss blue_jay May 2025 #111
My sympathy to you bdamomma May 2025 #112
Sounds like she was a terrific Mom. I'm sorry for your loss. chowder66 May 2025 #113
My deepest condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope May 2025 #114
imanamerican63 dlilafae May 2025 #115
Deepest Condolences to you and your family, 63 ReRe May 2025 #116
My condolences on your devastating loss, imanamerican63 Niagara May 2025 #117
I'm so very sorry for your loss. LuckyCharms May 2025 #118
Condolences to you and your family. Tess49 May 2025 #119
So sorry for your loss.... Dem4life1970 May 2025 #120
I am very sorry for your loss of your mom Meowmee May 2025 #121
May your mother Rest in Peace and May her Memory be a Blessing. 🙏. n/t iluvtennis May 2025 #122
I'm so sorry. My condolences to you and your family. Your mother was - still is - a treasure, and highplainsdem May 2025 #123
I'm very sorry for your loss BlueSpot May 2025 #124
so sorry; hard to take; hugs... peacebuzzard May 2025 #125
So sorry for your loss. stillcool May 2025 #126
😢🙏 claudette May 2025 #127
Sorry for your loss. Wish you well in this tough time. n/t marked50 May 2025 #128
Condolences, imanamerican63 gademocrat7 May 2025 #129
Oh, imanamerican63, I am so deeply sorry for your loss of your treasured mother. I just saw this and KitFox May 2025 #130
I'm sorry for your loss. area51 May 2025 #131
... ailsagirl May 2025 #132
I offer my condolences. diehardblue May 2025 #133
My condolences to you and your family bdjhawk May 2025 #134
She's at peace now. democrank May 2025 #135
Im so sorry for your loss... samnsara May 2025 #136
. Rocknation May 2025 #137
This message was self-deleted by its author PennRalphie May 2025 #138
Your mother will always be part of your life. raging moderate May 2025 #139
Condolences Jean Genie May 2025 #140
So so sorry, may she rest in peace. CaptainTruth May 2025 #141

Basso8vb

(1,230 posts)
4. Much love and condolences to you and your family.
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:07 PM
May 2025

Sounds like your mom was a wonderful person.

hamsterjill

(16,889 posts)
5. Sending a hug.
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:08 PM
May 2025

I'm so sorry for your loss. May your family and friends take care of one another during this time. Remember to breathe, and remember the good times.

senseandsensibility

(24,185 posts)
6. So sorry
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:08 PM
May 2025

Last edited Wed May 14, 2025, 01:54 PM - Edit history (1)

I know from experience that it doesn't matter if a loss is expected or sudden. The finality of it is like a sledgehammer. I hope you find peace and may her memory be a blessing.

livetohike

(23,927 posts)
7. My sympathy to you and the family and also to
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:09 PM
May 2025

all who knew and loved your mom. May every good memory comfort you and always make you smile .

greatlaurel

(2,020 posts)
11. Deepest condolences
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:13 PM
May 2025

So very sorry for your loss. Please take extra good care of yourself to get through this difficult time.

She was a special person to have raised you so very well.

Mike 03

(18,690 posts)
18. I'm so very sorry, iamanamerican63
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:25 PM
May 2025

No words could address the sadness and grief you are feeling.

It's very important you treat yourself extra well for a while. Be kind to yourself.

Again, I'm so sad to read this and so sorry you are going through this.

TygrBright

(21,274 posts)
19. Holding you and your family in my heart for consolation and strength. So hard to lose Mom! n/t
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:26 PM
May 2025

JMCKUSICK

(4,849 posts)
22. The woman you describe
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:33 PM
May 2025

Is an absolute Angel and that you have so much to celebrate and remember, is such a gift to carry forward and honor.
May your mother's memory be your conscience and guide imanamerican63.
Love, John

kimbutgar

(26,637 posts)
24. My condolences to you and your family on your loss
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:34 PM
May 2025

But Mom will still always be with you in your heart and spirit.

Danmel

(5,666 posts)
25. I'm so sorry for your loss
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:34 PM
May 2025

May sweet memories of your beloved mom bring you comfort and peace.

ultralite001

(2,353 posts)
26. May her memory be a blessing...
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:36 PM
May 2025

to you in good times + those other times...

Holding you in our 🧡💛💙...

MIButterfly

(1,812 posts)
31. I am so sorry for your loss.
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:39 PM
May 2025

I send you and your loved ones my deepest sympathy at this sad time. I hope loving memories of your mother will eventually provide some measure of comfort in your grief.

Much love to you and yours. ❤️

hlthe2b

(112,517 posts)
35. I'm very sorry. While it has been many years since I lost both of my parents, I remember the words of a wise man
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:42 PM
May 2025

who told me that two things happen when you lose your parents (or those close to you):

First, no matter how old you are, how independent, how good or bad your relationship with your parents, there is no feeling more jarring than to think you are now an "orphan" for all intents and purposes...

and
Second, there is a numbness that descends and lasts for months or even years, which helps you get through it. And that numbness allows you to remember the good times without being paralyzed by the sadness.


Those both held for me. I hope the second, especially, holds for you and sustains you.

Paladin

(32,170 posts)
42. Best wishes.
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:47 PM
May 2025

Sounds like your mother left you with some good memories---I know from personal experience how valuable such memories are, in difficult circumstances.

littlemissmartypants

(31,249 posts)
45. So sorry imanamerican63. Nothing prepares us. Nothing.
Wed May 14, 2025, 01:49 PM
May 2025

I'm sending comfort and love. I hope it helps.

Stay encouraged.



❤️

dai13sy

(570 posts)
50. I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom. Those feelings and memories become sweeter with time.
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:00 PM
May 2025

She'll always be part of your heart and your brain so be sure to talk with her to check on her and let her know how you are doing. She wants to know. She loves you

WinstonSmith4740

(3,409 posts)
55. We're all here for you.
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:03 PM
May 2025

So sorry to hear, but as you said, she is at peace with those that preceeded her on that journey. Please remember to take care of yourself...it's easy to forget to do that at times like this.

Clouds Passing

(6,770 posts)
56. Your Mom
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:04 PM
May 2025


Please know how fortunate you are to have a wonderful mother and a strong relationship with her. She is still with you, she will always be supporting, guiding and loving you.

SheltieLover

(75,732 posts)
57. Deepest condolences to you and your family
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:07 PM
May 2025

I hope and trust she had a peaceful crossing.

Continuing to send healing vibes to you and your family.

Please consider grief counseling through the hospice as they are specially trained to help you pick up the pieces.



bedazzled

(1,881 posts)
58. You are a wonderful and caring child
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:08 PM
May 2025

You did your best for her, and I am sure she appreciated it!

She will be with you always now. Take time to heal yourself and you will feel her...

Sincere condolences

IndyPepper

(56 posts)
59. I'm so sorry
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:15 PM
May 2025

It's always difficult losing a parent, no matter their age. I lost my mother when I was 29 and she was just 53. My father made it to 86, but it was still a very sad day when we had to say goodbye. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers as you navigate this difficult time.

Onlyserious

(109 posts)
72. A professor's kind and very true words...
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:43 PM
May 2025

I lost my Dad when I was in graduate school and when I was making arrangements a professor I admired said how sorry he was and then..."You never get over it...but you do get used to it." True in my case.

GreenEyedLefty

(2,112 posts)
73. I'm so sorry, sending lots of hugs your way
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:48 PM
May 2025

I was devastated when my mom passed away; she was my best friend and confidante. I hoped to have even a few more years with her, but alas, it was not meant to be.

Beachnutt

(8,873 posts)
77. 👇
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:03 PM
May 2025


You are standing upon the seashore.
A ship at your side spreads her white
sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean.
She is an object of beauty and strength.
You stand and watch her until at length
she hangs like a speck of white cloud fading from sight
just where the sea and sky come together.

Then, someone at your side says;
"There, she is gone!"

"Gone where?"
Gone from your sight. That is all.
She is just as large in mast and hull
and spar as she was when she left your side
and she is just as able to bear her
load of living freight to her destined port.
Her diminished size is in you not in her.

And just at the moment when someone
at your side says, "There, she is gone!"
There are other eyes watching her coming on the other shore
and other voices ready to take up the glad shout;
"Here she comes!"

FirstLight

(15,755 posts)
78. Huge hugs for you... May she have a great reunion with her family!
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:04 PM
May 2025

My mom passed in 2022, and Dad followed in 2023 (almost the same day, 12 hours difference)

My sister and I used to say what a hell of a party they were having on the other side! They were the last ones alive out of all their friends and family, so I am sure it was a great time!

Hope the thought of a blessed and joyful homecoming help ease your pain. I miss my momma ALL the damn time... :hugs:

Figarosmom

(9,491 posts)
88. She's at rest now
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:37 PM
May 2025

You'll never be without her in your life. Since losing my Mom I notice so many things she left behind to remain in our lives. Recipes, ways of doing things like gardening and sewing. All thise little things we take for granted for our day to day survival you will suddenly see her in them.

benfranklin1776

(6,979 posts)
91. I'm so very sorry.
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:41 PM
May 2025


Her magnificent spirit and wisdom lives on through you. Wishing you comfort and solace in this your time of great sorrow

pandr32

(13,719 posts)
92. My heart goes out to you.
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:41 PM
May 2025

It is a difficult adjustment to life going forward when you lose such close, primary loves.

LoisB

(12,193 posts)
95. I am so sorry. She belongs to The Universe now so she is at peace. Strength and peace to
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:56 PM
May 2025

you, the rest of her family and friends for the journey ahead.

Kaleva

(40,109 posts)
101. My deepest sympathies to you, your siblings and everyone else whose lives were touched by your mother
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:21 PM
May 2025

The_REAL_Ecumenist

(928 posts)
104. Oh Baby, I am SO sorry to read this. My heart breaks that you've now joined a club that noone wants to ever join.
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:39 PM
May 2025

Please accept my deep and sincere sympathy & a virtual hug. May the sadness you feel now soon turn into sweet instances of remembrance when recalling the things you shared with her. She's okay now, out of a body that no longer worked the way it was supposed to and , (in my cultural belief), she's been reunited with all her loved ones who went on before her. Safe and wonderful journey home, Mama ImAnAmerican63.
I KNOW that we do go on because on August 7 1998 @ approx. 4:30am, I died from a perforated duodenal ulcer I didn't know I had. I was clinically dead for 45 minutes, (no heartbeat full respiratory failure) & the things I saw, beyond beautiful. TRUST ME, you'll see her again & the love she has for you will never change.

You have a family of sorts here on DU who are surrounding you with love, sending healing thoughts & comfort. Please don't hesitate to reach out to anyone of this wonderful community if you need to talk. I don't presume to know what you believe in but I hope you don't mind my telling you that my family will be saying prayers for you-for strength, for healing & for the return of your Sunshine.

Bless you, the family & all the people that will miss her as she flew away...

Warpy

(114,346 posts)
105. I'm sorry, Mom's especiallly hard when it's time for her to go
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:49 PM
May 2025

We want them to llive forever, but if we're honest, we don't want them to live like that, bodies wearing out due to age.

My mother was also politically astute. When Nixon announced his run in 1968, my mother said "He's going to be impeached if he gets in." He would have been, had he not grabbed his pension and resigned. She spotted Reagan's dementia in 1982. I would love to know her opiinion of this bunch, I would imagine it would be pithy, accurate, and profane, but there is no way I'd have forced her to live to 116 in order to give it.

Just know that the shock will wear off quickly, the waves of grief will eventually fad,e and the memories of who she was will crowd out the ones of her last days. It will get better. It will just take some time.

ReRe

(12,162 posts)
116. Deepest Condolences to you and your family, 63
Wed May 14, 2025, 05:58 PM
May 2025

Burning a candle for dear Mother. And for you, dear DU friend.

highplainsdem

(59,439 posts)
123. I'm so sorry. My condolences to you and your family. Your mother was - still is - a treasure, and
Wed May 14, 2025, 07:50 PM
May 2025

she'll be watching over you. You may have what seem like signs reassuring you of that, and of her continuing love. Trust them.

BlueSpot

(1,237 posts)
124. I'm very sorry for your loss
Wed May 14, 2025, 08:25 PM
May 2025

There will be a lot to process. If you're on good terms with your siblings, that will help. It'll still be hard, so be kind to yourself and give yourself some slack (I don't really know if that's universal but it was something I had to learn to do when I was in a similar situation).

KitFox

(494 posts)
130. Oh, imanamerican63, I am so deeply sorry for your loss of your treasured mother. I just saw this and
Wed May 14, 2025, 11:07 PM
May 2025

when I found your previous posts, I see that she was in Hospice care surrounded by you and your family. I hope it will bring you some comfort to always know you were right there with her helping her pass. Love, peace and gentle hugs to you as you inch your way through the next part of your journey. 🩷🩷

Response to imanamerican63 (Original post)

raging moderate

(4,600 posts)
139. Your mother will always be part of your life.
Thu May 15, 2025, 09:09 AM
May 2025

My mother died many years ago. One day, while I was fixing a quick lunch for myself, a memory of her smile drifted into my mind. Silently, I wondered what she might be experiencing these days. Suddenly, I heard her voice in my mind: "Well, right now, I am fixing a peanut butter sandwich for my daughter." I looked down at my hands working on my sandwich, and suddenly realized that I had watched my mother's hands doing that, many times. And my mother taught me to do so many of the things I do every day, so she really is still with me. And your memories of your mother will comfort you, more and more!

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