General Discussion
Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsWith great regret & sadness.
My mother passed away a little over an hour ago. She is at peace and now is with our father, her parents and her siblings.
She was my rock and I was hers. A love for everyone of her 9 children no matter what, who or why? She was there without any questions asked. But she was my go to political talk.
Peace to all and thank you for support and kindness. Its deeply appreciated.
greatauntoftriplets
(178,576 posts)Drum
(10,538 posts)LiberalLoner
(11,467 posts)Basso8vb
(1,230 posts)Sounds like your mom was a wonderful person.
hamsterjill
(16,889 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss. May your family and friends take care of one another during this time. Remember to breathe, and remember the good times.
senseandsensibility
(24,185 posts)Last edited Wed May 14, 2025, 01:54 PM - Edit history (1)
I know from experience that it doesn't matter if a loss is expected or sudden. The finality of it is like a sledgehammer. I hope you find peace and may her memory be a blessing.
livetohike
(23,927 posts)all who knew and loved your mom. May every good memory comfort you and always make you smile
.
redwitch
(15,223 posts)Virtual hugs to you and your family.
Diamond_Dog
(39,577 posts)OLDMDDEM
(2,988 posts)greatlaurel
(2,020 posts)So very sorry for your loss. Please take extra good care of yourself to get through this difficult time.
She was a special person to have raised you so very well.
alittlelark
(19,087 posts)Deuxcents
(25,222 posts)TommieMommy
(2,590 posts)Wingus Dingus
(9,173 posts)Bettie
(19,211 posts)It will be hard for the next little while. I wish you peace.
Space Lemon
(43 posts)Mike 03
(18,690 posts)No words could address the sadness and grief you are feeling.
It's very important you treat yourself extra well for a while. Be kind to yourself.
Again, I'm so sad to read this and so sorry you are going through this.
TygrBright
(21,274 posts)LetMyPeopleVote
(173,933 posts)crazylikafox
(2,899 posts)Wishing you peace and comfort in the coming days
JMCKUSICK
(4,849 posts)Is an absolute Angel and that you have so much to celebrate and remember, is such a gift to carry forward and honor.
May your mother's memory be your conscience and guide imanamerican63.
Love, John
MarineCombatEngineer
(17,429 posts)I am so sorry to hear this.
Hugs and kisses and may she rest in peace.
kimbutgar
(26,637 posts)But Mom will still always be with you in your heart and spirit.
Danmel
(5,666 posts)May sweet memories of your beloved mom bring you comfort and peace.
ultralite001
(2,353 posts)to you in good times + those other times...
Holding you in our 🧡💛💙...
underpants
(194,406 posts)irisblue
(36,622 posts)PittBlue
(4,689 posts)Orrin_73
(1,649 posts)MIButterfly
(1,812 posts)I send you and your loved ones my deepest sympathy at this sad time. I hope loving memories of your mother will eventually provide some measure of comfort in your grief.
Much love to you and yours. ❤️
Libby2
(4,632 posts)to you and your family. May she rest in peace.
Alice Kramden
(2,866 posts)woodsprite
(12,534 posts)hlthe2b
(112,517 posts)who told me that two things happen when you lose your parents (or those close to you):
First, no matter how old you are, how independent, how good or bad your relationship with your parents, there is no feeling more jarring than to think you are now an "orphan" for all intents and purposes...
and
Second, there is a numbness that descends and lasts for months or even years, which helps you get through it. And that numbness allows you to remember the good times without being paralyzed by the sadness.
Those both held for me. I hope the second, especially, holds for you and sustains you.
IbogaProject
(5,524 posts)So sorry for your loss.
bluesbassman
(20,367 posts)Peace and comfort to you and your family.
niyad
(129,204 posts)relayerbob
(7,338 posts)spanone
(140,866 posts)Nevilledog
(54,709 posts)Paladin
(32,170 posts)Sounds like your mother left you with some good memories---I know from personal experience how valuable such memories are, in difficult circumstances.
mwmisses4289
(3,011 posts)JohnSJ
(98,883 posts)littlemissmartypants
(31,249 posts)I'm sending comfort and love. I hope it helps.
Stay encouraged.
❤️
ornotna
(11,399 posts)To you and yours.
JoeOtterbein
(7,863 posts)....(tears).
malaise
(291,956 posts):
PatSeg
(51,812 posts)In that sense you are truly blessed.
dai13sy
(570 posts)She'll always be part of your heart and your brain so be sure to talk with her to check on her and let her know how you are doing. She wants to know. She loves you
Magoo48
(6,687 posts)rurallib
(64,494 posts)Lonestarblue
(13,166 posts)boonecreek
(1,353 posts)WinstonSmith4740
(3,409 posts)So sorry to hear, but as you said, she is at peace with those that preceeded her on that journey. Please remember to take care of yourself...it's easy to forget to do that at times like this.
Clouds Passing
(6,770 posts)Please know how fortunate you are to have a wonderful mother and a strong relationship with her. She is still with you, she will always be supporting, guiding and loving you.
SheltieLover
(75,732 posts)I hope and trust she had a peaceful crossing.
Continuing to send healing vibes to you and your family.
Please consider grief counseling through the hospice as they are specially trained to help you pick up the pieces.
bedazzled
(1,881 posts)You did your best for her, and I am sure she appreciated it!
She will be with you always now. Take time to heal yourself and you will feel her...
Sincere condolences
IndyPepper
(56 posts)It's always difficult losing a parent, no matter their age. I lost my mother when I was 29 and she was just 53. My father made it to 86, but it was still a very sad day when we had to say goodbye. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers as you navigate this difficult time.
Grim Chieftain
(1,073 posts)I hope blessed memories will be a comfort at this difficult time.
Richard D
(10,018 posts)blm
(114,406 posts)💐🕯️
PCIntern
(27,927 posts)Grumpy Old Guy
(4,158 posts)💔
electric_blue68
(25,441 posts)Dulcinea
(9,554 posts)lamp_shade
(15,336 posts)CousinIT
(12,131 posts)helpisontheway
(5,361 posts)WhiteTara
(31,145 posts)your grief be bearable.
Om Mani Padme Hum
AllaN01Bear
(28,353 posts)Onlyserious
(109 posts)I lost my Dad when I was in graduate school and when I was making arrangements a professor I admired said how sorry he was and then..."You never get over it...but you do get used to it." True in my case.
GreenEyedLefty
(2,112 posts)I was devastated when my mom passed away; she was my best friend and confidante. I hoped to have even a few more years with her, but alas, it was not meant to be.
Botany
(76,159 posts)Although that doesnt take the hurt away.
Deep State Witch
(12,512 posts)May she go forth shining!
sdfernando
(5,993 posts)keep her in your memories and in your heart.
Beachnutt
(8,873 posts)You are standing upon the seashore.
A ship at your side spreads her white
sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean.
She is an object of beauty and strength.
You stand and watch her until at length
she hangs like a speck of white cloud fading from sight
just where the sea and sky come together.
Then, someone at your side says;
"There, she is gone!"
"Gone where?"
Gone from your sight. That is all.
She is just as large in mast and hull
and spar as she was when she left your side
and she is just as able to bear her
load of living freight to her destined port.
Her diminished size is in you not in her.
And just at the moment when someone
at your side says, "There, she is gone!"
There are other eyes watching her coming on the other shore
and other voices ready to take up the glad shout;
"Here she comes!"
FirstLight
(15,755 posts)My mom passed in 2022, and Dad followed in 2023 (almost the same day, 12 hours difference)
My sister and I used to say what a hell of a party they were having on the other side! They were the last ones alive out of all their friends and family, so I am sure it was a great time!
Hope the thought of a blessed and joyful homecoming help ease your pain. I miss my momma ALL the damn time... :hugs:
mercuryblues
(16,119 posts)cate94
(3,037 posts)orangecrush
(27,951 posts)allegorical oracle
(6,118 posts)she knew it.
70sEraVet
(5,202 posts)Chicagogrl1
(603 posts)mahina
(20,294 posts)and light for her path home. Aloha imanamerican63.
Scrivener7
(58,042 posts)SimplyHadEnough
(83 posts)Figarosmom
(9,491 posts)You'll never be without her in your life. Since losing my Mom I notice so many things she left behind to remain in our lives. Recipes, ways of doing things like gardening and sewing. All thise little things we take for granted for our day to day survival you will suddenly see her in them.
lonely bird
(2,690 posts)May memories of her ease your sorrow.
virgdem
(2,291 posts)Wishing you peace.💔
benfranklin1776
(6,979 posts)Her magnificent spirit and wisdom lives on through you. Wishing you comfort and solace in this your time of great sorrow
pandr32
(13,719 posts)It is a difficult adjustment to life going forward when you lose such close, primary loves.
yonder
(10,217 posts)MustLoveBeagles
(14,366 posts)LoisB
(12,193 posts)you, the rest of her family and friends for the journey ahead.
Person of Interest
(380 posts)blueseas
(11,714 posts)Richluu
(150 posts)Pure love on her side of the veil. 🙏💚💙
KT2000
(21,891 posts)Peace to you.
NCgayguy
(255 posts)My heart breaks for you and your family, truly!
Sincerely,
Reis
Kaleva
(40,109 posts)Blues Heron
(8,187 posts)Peace to you imanamerican63
vishnura
(352 posts)The_REAL_Ecumenist
(928 posts)Please accept my deep and sincere sympathy & a virtual hug. May the sadness you feel now soon turn into sweet instances of remembrance when recalling the things you shared with her. She's okay now, out of a body that no longer worked the way it was supposed to and , (in my cultural belief), she's been reunited with all her loved ones who went on before her. Safe and wonderful journey home, Mama ImAnAmerican63.
I KNOW that we do go on because on August 7 1998 @ approx. 4:30am, I died from a perforated duodenal ulcer I didn't know I had. I was clinically dead for 45 minutes, (no heartbeat full respiratory failure) & the things I saw, beyond beautiful. TRUST ME, you'll see her again & the love she has for you will never change.
You have a family of sorts here on DU who are surrounding you with love, sending healing thoughts & comfort. Please don't hesitate to reach out to anyone of this wonderful community if you need to talk. I don't presume to know what you believe in but I hope you don't mind my telling you that my family will be saying prayers for you-for strength, for healing & for the return of your Sunshine.
Bless you, the family & all the people that will miss her as she flew away...
Warpy
(114,346 posts)We want them to llive forever, but if we're honest, we don't want them to live like that, bodies wearing out due to age.
My mother was also politically astute. When Nixon announced his run in 1968, my mother said "He's going to be impeached if he gets in." He would have been, had he not grabbed his pension and resigned. She spotted Reagan's dementia in 1982. I would love to know her opiinion of this bunch, I would imagine it would be pithy, accurate, and profane, but there is no way I'd have forced her to live to 116 in order to give it.
Just know that the shock will wear off quickly, the waves of grief will eventually fad,e and the memories of who she was will crowd out the ones of her last days. It will get better. It will just take some time.
Passages
(3,986 posts)and hugs to you.
c-rational
(3,121 posts)bluestarone
(21,006 posts)blogslug
(39,069 posts)❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Jit423
(1,568 posts)Peace.
blue_jay
(176 posts)bdamomma
(69,130 posts)and your family. She lives in you,
chowder66
(11,727 posts)HeartsCanHope
(1,497 posts)I am so sorry.
dlilafae
(367 posts)So very sorry for the deep hole of feeling lost. Glad to hear from you.🩶
ReRe
(12,162 posts)Burning a candle for dear Mother. And for you, dear DU friend.
Niagara
(11,328 posts)LuckyCharms
(21,313 posts)Tess49
(1,617 posts)Dem4life1970
(1,037 posts)Meowmee
(9,212 posts)iluvtennis
(21,441 posts)highplainsdem
(59,439 posts)she'll be watching over you. You may have what seem like signs reassuring you of that, and of her continuing love. Trust them.
BlueSpot
(1,237 posts)There will be a lot to process. If you're on good terms with your siblings, that will help. It'll still be hard, so be kind to yourself and give yourself some slack (I don't really know if that's universal but it was something I had to learn to do when I was in a similar situation).
peacebuzzard
(5,789 posts)stillcool
(34,407 posts)claudette
(5,455 posts)marked50
(1,542 posts)gademocrat7
(11,777 posts)On the loss of your beloved mother.
KitFox
(494 posts)when I found your previous posts, I see that she was in Hospice care surrounded by you and your family. I hope it will bring you some comfort to always know you were right there with her helping her pass. Love, peace and gentle hugs to you as you inch your way through the next part of your journey. 🩷🩷
area51
(12,546 posts)ailsagirl
(24,287 posts)diehardblue
(11,130 posts)bdjhawk
(442 posts)democrank
(12,049 posts)Hold on to your memories. Im very sorry.
samnsara
(18,706 posts)...losing a parent is hard.
(((hugs)))
Rocknation
(44,961 posts)
Rocknation
Response to imanamerican63 (Original post)
PennRalphie This message was self-deleted by its author.
raging moderate
(4,600 posts)My mother died many years ago. One day, while I was fixing a quick lunch for myself, a memory of her smile drifted into my mind. Silently, I wondered what she might be experiencing these days. Suddenly, I heard her voice in my mind: "Well, right now, I am fixing a peanut butter sandwich for my daughter." I looked down at my hands working on my sandwich, and suddenly realized that I had watched my mother's hands doing that, many times. And my mother taught me to do so many of the things I do every day, so she really is still with me. And your memories of your mother will comfort you, more and more!
Jean Genie
(532 posts)Stay strong, seek support, and cherish your memories.